My childhood dog was euthanised last week, it was the hardest thing ever and I feel guilty, have regrets, and have been so sad over it. I knew it was coming as she was very very old, but it was still unexpected. My family and I were there for it, I had messaged my boyfriend letting him know what was going on, and he said sorry this is happening etc etc but he was out with friends so couldn’t call me or message. I asked if he could stay at my house that night for comfort and he said ok, but then texted me later saying he was too tired to drive to my house and because he was going on a weekend trip with his friends the next day he needed good sleep to drive. I said it’s fine but obviously felt disappointed but not angry at him as I understood he needed good sleep before driving.
The next day though, he didn’t message me at all and left with all his friends, then didn’t have wifi for 3 days, so I did not hear from him all weekend. I felt a bit hurt he didn’t check in with me before he left & the day after I had to put my dog down, or even just a hey I’m leaving now I love you/hope you’re doing ok…. He got home today, and I let him know I felt a bit hurt that he didn’t check in with me, and he said he had absolutely no time whatsoever…. And to trust him that he genuinely had not even one second to talk to me. I am struggling to see his point of view, and I can’t see how he couldn’t find 2 minutes to check in with me the morning before his trip. (He didn’t leave till midday). Anyway he said he “doesn't regret anything” because he “didn’t do anything wrong” but I still feel a bit let down, and I’m not sure how to navigate this on top of the grief I’m feeling over losing my dog.
(btw I’m not a crazy girlfriend who expects him to message me everyday, sometimes he doesn’t text me for 2 days because he is busy with work and I literally don’t care, but the fact I had lost my dog I felt I needed him but he wasn’t there for me made me sad)
