My partner doesn't have long to live

[Homer1071]

My partner has lung and heart disease,has been given days if not months to live we have a 23 year old son together and I have so many emotions going through my head I have angry outbursts at people and frustration is peaking off the chart

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Homer,

I am deeply sorry to hear about your partner...

I nursed my husband through brain and lung cancer 8 years ago and my heart really goes out to you...Ltd really hard watching watching your loved one slowly dying....His Oncologists said 12 weeks and that was all he had...

Homer..does your supervisors know what is happening to your beautiful partner?...If they do and they are treating you like they are...they are so un compassionate and unfair to you...If they don’t know...maybe you could tell them about your partner...or can your Dr. give you some weeks, months off to care for your partner...I am not sure but under a Drs. Certificate your company cannot fire you...and you will have that extra time to care and be with your partner...

I really hope Homer that your not feeling inadequate..you are doing the best you can under devastating circumstances...Looking after a loved on with terminal cancer is one of the hardest things that anyone can do..

My heartfelt thoughts and care dear Homer..

Please talk here anytime you need to...we are all for you to help you in anyway that we can...

A gentle caring hug caring lovely Homer..🦋🤗.

Grandy..

[mmMekitty]

Dear Homer,

There's no easy way through this, & my heart goes out to you. I'm glad you've reached out to us & would encourage you to write as often & as much as you need.

I notice you mention having a son, so I hope you & he are supporting each other through this extremely difficult time. But you don't mention any other people who could support you, too. Are there any good friends or close family you can call on?

I like Grandy's suggestion about work, & finding out if you can get some sort of leave to care for your partner. I don't know anything helpful in that area, but think, surely there is something. It in your circumstances it is simply too much to expect that you'll be able to not need to have time off, even at short notice?

warm regards,

mmMekitty

[Petal22]

Hi Homer1071,

Im so sorry to hear of your wife’s fall….. that must have been difficult for you….

Im also sorry that your supervisor said what was said …….

Its totally understandable why you didn’t go to work last Sunday…

Is your supervisor aware what you and your wife are going through?

[Homer1071]

My production manager and my main supervisor knows what is going on ,I don't let a lot of people know what is going on because I haven't known many of them for very long.I can't take time off work as I am the main income earner and I am only part time.I don't have any savings as we live week to week,I tell myself that Thier opinions don't matter but it annoys me that they judge me like that.I lost my father about a year and a half ago,a few months ago my dog passed she was my son's best friend he idolized her.I got told a few weeks ago that my job will go in March 2023,so I now have the stress of finding another job.My head is going a million miles an hour I feel like I am losing everything that matters to me in my life and there is nothing I can do about it,I will stay as strong as I can though for my son's well being and I do have the support of a select few people that I know,but I don't talk much to others because everyone in this world has Thier own problems or issues to deal with.I appreciate everyone's replays and I will take everybody's advice on board because just talking like this is already helping in small ways.One step at a time

[Tam1234]

I am sorry to hear you are going thru such a tough time. You are an amazing person to be supporting your partner and I bet she feels comforted knowing you are there for her. I love that you don’t care what the work people think and that you are taking one day at a time that is very smart to think like that in such difficult times. I relate to you as cared for my dad for 8 years he lived with me for past 6 months and passed 2/12. You are stronger than you realise, keep reaching out for support. Take care Homer1071

[Petal22]

Hi Homer1071,

How sad that your manager and main supervisor know and one said you were un reliable I think that’s very un compassionate of them……. Please know it’s a reflection of themselves and not you……

Im sorry to hear of your Dads passing and your son’s dog.

I understand that things would be difficult for you at this time.

Im glad to hear that you have support from a select few and I also understand this time would be difficult for your son.

Please know we are here as a community to support you.

[Homer1071]

It's hard to accept the reality that someone you have been with for so long is going to be taken from you without a choice either way,one way that made it a little bit more comforting for the both of us was discussing how I would deal with her passing after she is gone.I told her that I would look at it as it is her time to go and look after and care for our son who passed so that he can finally have one on one time with his mum and that eventually we will all be together as a family,she found that very comforting.Yes my son and I will be left behind but it puts my mind at ease to think that

[mmMekitty]

Hi Homer,

You & your son each having time to have these conversations with her is so very important, & I think, possibly the single best thing you can do.

All my best,

nnMekitty

[Petal22]

Hi Homer,

I understand that it would be so difficult for you to have the reality that someone you love so deeply will be taken away…… it really would be difficult I feel for you, your partner and son….

Im glad you have both found comfort in the way that you are dealing with things after your partner has passed.

Thinking of you and we are here.

[Homer1071]

Is it normal to feel frustrated and angry.My partner has noticed over the last couple of weeks that I have become angry and frustrated causing me to snap at her and my son ,I don't realise that I am doing it and I feel terrible afterwards knowing that sorry isn't enough