My mother had a breakdown today
We're so grateful that you decided to reach out and share your thoughts and feelings with our friendly community tonight. We're really sorry to hear what your mother is going through, and we can hear how much her pain is also affecting you. She sounds very lucky to have someone as caring as yourself looking out for her, and please know that our wonderful community is here to offer as much support and advice as you need.
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We hope that you keep checking back in with us to let us know how you are going, whenever you feel up to it.
Hello Unigirl, your comment is very much appreciated.
When a parent has a breakdown and you notice it's not easy to know how to approach the situation, because if it's happened before, the reason/s this time maybe different to why it has occurred again, and even if it's concerning the same issue then there maybe other problems more dominant than last time.
If you have also suffered from MI then it maybe possible to try and interrupt why it's happened, either with some luck or not, but if it does happen once a year then there could be warning signs to take note of.
If you are aged 25 or under you could be in contact with Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 by phone or online, however, the worry is that she needs to be convinced to see her doctor, and from what you've told us, there could be other problems she is struggling with and trying her best to hide.
Hello Unigirl, when you know there's a problem with your mother but is hiding it, it makes your situation to be very difficult as any tendencies toward denial, withdrawal, or perhaps staying alone are common in reaction to deeply felt emotional pain and it's shown by her being unusually quiet by something that's happened in the past or it maybe associated.
Taking a break could certainly be the solution as long as her current conditions can be changed that might be the trigger to feeling this way.
I do not know much about what you are going through to be very helpful and imagine that it must be very hard for your mom and you that love her. I just wanted to say that your mom should be very proud that she raised a daughter as caring and understanding as you.
As a mom myself, I know it is not always easy to bring up the best in your child even if you think you are doing everything by the book, so with your mom having had to struggle a bit with her issues, she has done a terrific job raising you to have this level of care and love for her. Well done to both of you.