Hey J*, we're here for you any time of the day or night.
I read the "Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)" and the "Extra Sensitive Person (ESP)" stuff you were talking about on another thread....
BUT sometimes we just have to look around us and figure out if we're not just surrounded by aholes.
For some unknown reason when we are compassionate, kind souls, those aholes just think they can tread all over us. And given the chance they DO!
We can't change who they are, nor can we change how they treat us.
When their treatment is so brutal and cruel, it's normal for us to feel extremely hurt, even betrayed and damaged by their words and actions.
Forgiveness is one thing.
But forgiving doesn't mean we have to go back into the fire time and time again.
It's exhausting and mind effing being in relationships with toxic people.
I like the notion of "Low Contact" but have rarely seen it play out successfully long term.
Toxic people won't respect boundaries IME.
Perhaps LC can give ppl TIME to establish their lives without these ppl in their lives as in full contact.
No Contact is extremely difficult when it's sudden most especially (in my case with my mother when police were called).
I think NC is sad for probably anyone who has to make this decision. It was for me. Police made the decision for me saying they wouldn't help me again if I allowed her in my home etc.
Maintaining LC or NC is very stressful also. Even after decades I'm being contacted by my mother. 99% of anything I throw in the bin. Of the 1% of letters I open, it's full of demands and accusations.
This just cements my decision tbh.
Toxic ppl seem to have endless amounts of energy for their toxicity!
So we're stuck with a range of really sucky options. We may not like the consequences of ANY option. But they're options still the same.
Some ppl are so screwed up we have NO options but NC.
Love EMxxxx
