hello Caz, I am just so sorry for your friend to lose her husband, because at the moment there is hole left in her which can't seemed to be filled.
There are people on this site that have lost someone very close to them and it's very hard for them to move on, because birthdays, anniversaries and any other dates which are so important make it so difficult.
Her feelings must be that she doesn't want to do anything you suggest the two of you to do, because she doesn't have the energy, interest to participate or what's the purpose in life when he may have gone so suddenly.
She must never feel guilty and not believe as though this is a way for there to be any connection between the two of them, I'm sure that it's not be what her husband would ever want.
There are grieving groups which she may have gone to and if not then it would be a good idea so she can listen to other people who have been able to overcome and fill the hole left in losing someone, they are sad but what they do is to talk about other avenues she could approach.
There is never a good time to say goodbye and death has a way of making daily life feel inconsequential and meaningless, but now she can carry her husband with her where ever she goes, to feel strong that she has him with her all the time, and that's something to be very proud of. Geoff. x
