Married and in love with first love again

[Choco-Girl]

Hi, I'm married with 2 kids. Marriage is not great or worst, its average. Financially build up together, but love life is not great. We don't have much emotional connection, all materialistic. 

After 20 years I met my first love again, he is married with 1 child. We both still love each other's and stuck what to do. We both love our kids and have guilty feeling about them. 

We live in two different countries, it's a big process to get together as well.

Don't know what to do, Can I get advises please?

[Scared]

Nobody can advise you what to do

only you can do that.

But I can remind you that maybe you just feel good seeing this person again because it takes the focus away of your 

• " average marriage "  and perhaps this is not love but excitement in seeing this person again..  Do you remember why you split up to begin with and are those issues now fixed.  Have you given any thoughts recently on how you can bring back some life to your marriage.   Its a traumatic affair getting divorced and the children involved and to top it off the person lives abroad.   Maybe staying with your partner and discussing with them how you can bring excitement back into your marriage.   Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side because we stopped looking at our own patch of grass.  But very rarely the grass is greener on the other side it only appears that way.