Marriage Seperation

[Tez1983]

My wife and I have been separated for 3 months now (she initiated the separation). My wife keeps telling me she has no feelings and has an open mind for them to come back. We catch up and do lunch or something most weeks to reignite the spark. But I can’t stop thinking about us getting back together. I am holding onto so much hope that it consumes me but it is also driving me crazy. I have started to drink a lot more and have never done illegal substances but have started too recently. I am just so anxious and up and down I don’t know if this will ever pass. Any help would be appreciated.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome 

Three options really, let's explore them. (Assuming she'll want you back).

1/ remain friends and get distraction by dating other ladies if that's a desire

2/ up your romance with her to see where it goes. No pressure to her and when recounting nice memories of you two together keep it short.

3/ I nearly considered returning to my first wife (only because of our kids) and a wise man said "never go backwards." 

So, it isn't easy deciding. Have you explored fully her reasons to separate?

TonyWK