Loneliest at Christmas
Welcome to the forums.
There are many people who share the feeling of being lonely, especially around Christmas time. I hope that you'll find the chance to look around and see other posts that you can join in on.
I've just done a quick search in your area and hopefully the links can pop-up. If you have trouble accessing them you can search "support groups mornington peninsula" or contact your local council/community health centre.
http://www.peninsulahealth.org.au/services/peninsula-health-community-health/mornington/ (They list support groups as part of their services and may be worth contacting)
Hope this helps
Welcome to the forums and thankyou for having the strength to post
You have come to the right place. We even have a thread called 'Christmas struggles' that you can post on too if you wish. I have the same problem where Christmas is concerned...ugh!
Im sorry about your son doing a disappearing act by taking separate cars. That wouldnt help. I have a 23 year old daughter that is rebelling against the world and despises Christmas. Im trying to remain somewhat positive and not have high expectations on the 25th.
I am near the location you mentioned and even though I used to have acute anxiety it has morphed into a social type of anxiety which is a pain. There must be a support group on the peninsula. I have no knowledge of one.
The Mornington Peninsula Shire offices in Mornington may have some info though
I have been a volunteer on here since January this year as have depression on and off and needed a place to talk with others as well as trying to help others that dont have the knowledge I have on anxiety/depression etc.
Feeling alone/isolated and fatigued is more common than you know...
There are many very kind people just like yourself on the forums that can be here for you 🙂
you are not in any way alone Ness
It would be great if you could stick around the forums 🙂
my kindest thoughts for you
* Another Christmas thread here is Christmas2016 Chillout Lounge
Thanks for replying to my post. I will look into that thread. It is a full-time job thinking of ways to connect with others and harder this time of year. I'm really trying not to let myself get down further. The increased social discomfort at times does pose an extra challenge. Being acknowledged and listened to and understood does help, knowing that you are not alone and that there is nothing 'strange' about your situation eases the stress. I will continue to interact with others on this site, I can be honest about how I feel instead of pretending to have it all together and feel like at least right now, there is somewhere to reach out to. When people ask me what I am doing on the holidays I just reply casually, 'Spending time with family an friends', I should add (I wish). It seems that everyone around me at the moment is looking forward to that and I want to feel like everyone else. Thank you for sharing some of your own challenges, I am also now adjusting my expectations for Christmas Day.
Hi Ness, and thanks for replying too 🙂
It can be really hard this time of year. I just heard Jeff Kennett on 3AW say that "loneliness at Christmas effects tens of thousands of people" You probably know anyway that he is the chairman of Beyond Blue and doesnt get paid for doing it so good on him.
I just thought that was spot on when he said that just after 4pm today. (and good him for saying the truth)
I still have heaps of people ask me what I am doing for Christmas (which is kind and caring) and I still answer 'just a quiet one'..The social discomfort is a pain but still just 'stigma' in reality. Just for me my health is paramount, the social pain can take a back seat 🙂
my kind thoughts
Good idea with the goals...I must remember to do same...smart move!
I have a huge Chow cross German Shepherd...I think I may give him a meat pie and some prawns for his Christmas lunch tomorrow. I have a huge beautiful fake pine christmas tree but is so big I deliberately put up a tiny 12" mini tree on my entertainment system....
Just lowering my expectations 🙂
I hope your fatigue is losing some its grip Ness.
be gentle with yourself, Paul
I can relate to your predicament, as does everyone else here in this thread. I'm nor really wise enough to add much to what they have said though I did have a couple of thoughts if you didn't mind.
Firstly is there one friend or member of extended family with whom you could share time, someone you considered generous of spirit? If so might it be worth taking them at least partly into you confidence? "Things did not work out -I don't want to talk about it" may well be all you need to say.
If a friend approach me in such a situation I'd feel for them, think no less of them, and delight in reaching out. The warmth of human face-to-face contact is a balm as is giving.
Secondly a couple of threads on this site have been mentioned to you. They are inhabited by and large by people in the same situation, some with greater ongoing problems than others. Approaching those threads with the idea, when appropriate, of lending your strength, perhaps with humor, perhaps with relating experiences, perhaps with - well I don't know, your strengths are different from mine.
Thirdly do any of the charities in your area (St V's etc) need a hand?
I wish you peace and surprising happiness this season