I want to leave my husband

[MummaPetal]

Hello

I'm so stressed out that I don't know where to begin.

I've been married for just over 10 years and we have 2 kids. During this time I've experienced judgement and bullying from his family.

My husband has health issues that lead to a severe lack of intimacy. He has put on a lot of weight. He doesn't have any friends but socialises with colleagues at work functions. His father has had a heart attack and has diabetes. I've tried to raise my concern with my husband about his health issues because I'm worried and I get labelled as a worry wart or too shallow (re weight). I need to ask for affection.

We've had counselling together and my husband says all I need to do is ask him when I need help. However when I do, I feel he doesn't listen or I repeatedly need to ask and explain why or mostly I just give up and do things myself.

He isn't aware of his intonation when he speaks and comes across as quite authoritarian. It upsets me.

I can't say anything to him without it being twisted around to be my problem. His family are like that too. It's never them. My stress has lead to physical ailments as well.

As I've been looking after the kids at home, I don't have any money to leave. I haven't worked in years. I feel so trapped.

Can anyone offer any advice?

Thank you.

[missep123]

Hi MummaPetal,

I'm sorry to hear that you have been going through this stressful time and that it's caused you physical ailments also.

I can understand that it can be very frustrating when you are trying to communicate with someone and it is just not working. I also relate to what you said about worrying about someone's health and being labelled as a 'worry wart', that has definitely happened to me! It comes from a caring place and we are just concerned and would like to prevent negative health outcomes from happening.

It sounds like you have really cared for your family and raising your children. Although you haven't worked for years, would you be open to looking for a casual or part-time job to start?

Please keep us updated, here for you!