Dear New Member~
Welcome here to the Support Forum. It sounds as if life has handed you a hard time and also a confusing one. On top of which it is very frustrating when having undergone real hardship to hear someone complain about somthing so trivial as being grounded -they really have no idea.
Before I go any further may I ask how you get on with you brother and are you living with your mum? Unless I get to know otherwise I"m going ot assume you are with your mum and have an ok relationship with her. Let me know if I'm wrong please.
Incidentally you are only assuming your dad has a new partner/family, but that is beside the point
You say yourself your dad "is extremely abusive, manipulative, and narcissistic". Just because you have been separated from him for around 5 years does not mean he has changed inside, only his tactics.
Unfortunatly some people regard their kids as counters in a game of control and self-justification, with the aim of getting them away from their ex-partner. It sounds very like this is what your dad may be doing, trying to separate you and your brother from your mum.
If he were to succeed ask yourself how you think he might behave to you if he thinks he has won. If you are with your mum and she loves you then you are well off. Presents and money are not love.
Can I suggest you talk this over with your mum - if you have not already done so - and see what she thinks?
I'd also suggest you get an outside view and web-chat or call The Kids Help Line, who know a great deal about such family problems and how young people feel. They normally give pretty good advise. They sometimes also let you talk with others in similar situations
You are very welcome here anytime
Croix
