How to confront parents?

[Guest_72201448]

Long story short yesterday my dad assumed i wasn't studying because i was sketching in my sketchbook (for about a few mins) which made me so mad i put all my art (2021-2026) in a bag and left it on the couch. I was going to throw it all away but I decided to ask my friend if she could take it. She declined so around 11:35pm I typed welp to the bin it goes, before immediately being sent off to bed by my dad. Today in the morning i was preapring to leave for school when I saw all of my art was not there. I was also confused as to why I never got a text from my friend. When I checked it turns out her messages were already checked.

So I did some digging. My friend sent 3 messages after 11:35pm (i would of been in bed by then), and these messages were LONG. They were checked at around 11:55pm. My parents know my passcode as it is my birthday (they made up the passcode for me) and they took my phone because that helped me focused on studying. So any one of them can log in via passcode and check. My friend also stays up very late like at 2am. So she checked and saw me online at 1am by then I would of been asleep. This also matches up when my parents would head off to bed as they take my phone and charge it in their home before going to sleep.

As for what happened to my art I asked my mum before leaving to school. She said, "Dad took it all to show his friends". Big lie, none of his friends live close to us they live an hour away. he also had work that day and work at about 20mins from home. His workplace also has cleaners who will take anything that was left behind. Dad once had his umbrella stolen by them. And why bring 6 canvas, about 5 sketchbooks, and loose paper to show friends?

My friend also said she estimates that I was maybe online at 1am to 1:20am before she fell asleep so they definitely read my messages with my friends. Which gives them a motive, for the past 2 days I have felt very sad and unwell with how they treat me and I text this all to my closest friends. Dad has a bit of a temper he can be angry if something isnt what he believes. I think his motive was after reading my texts about him and my mum he could of gotten mad and threw em out or at least take them away. Mum however, isn't really the person to throw out my art, she cherishes it but is also know for taking my stuff and moving it around constantly (Ive lost so many things cause she kept moving them).

I want to confront them but idk how to either in person or text. So what are your thoughts?

[Croix]

Dear new member~

I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum, a place anyone can come to anonymously and be heard.

On reading oyur post I had a couple of thoughts. The first is that you are blessed in that the the art is inside you, a talent not all that many people have, and to be able to sketch is not something that goes away simply becuse your work to date is missing.

Secondly I'm not sure oyur parents were doing anything particularly invasive by looking at late posts in case htey were important. They have your permission to have hte phone at night and you are aware that your password was made with their help. True it might have been more respectful not to read your messages, however considering the lateness of the night and your having been upset I guess they were concerned, even if they were a bit pushy.

I am sure they both value the fact you are artistic and value the work you have done in the past. The idea of it all being thrown away due to an argument may well have seemed too much, the work too valuable to trash. so your mum or dad removed it.

You sound as if you are the sort of person that can get mad quickly and is impulsive, so talking face to face about this might lead to another argument. Do you consider that if you set things out by text to your mum or dad's phone and asked them to reply the same way then eventually harmony will be restored even if it takes a couple of replies each way?

BTW what do you like to sketch?

If you would like to come back and say how things went that would be great.

Croix