Help please with first date

[Elsam]

I met a wonderful guy and fell in love with him at first sight when I saw him on an online dating site, I am totally smitten with this man.

Our first date was a dinner date at a beautiful restaurant and after dinner he invited me back to his place.

He got the red wine out and then we became intimate and I spent the night with him.

He sent me a video during the week and we had a couple of messages between us, then stupid me sent this message this afternoon.

Hope you are well
and had a nice weekend...
I can’t help but feel you were trying to tell me something through the Swiss video?
I feel so disappointed, as we had so much in common and could have a great time together.
I think you were great, I respect you and wanted to get to know you as a friend...
Mary xx

I have been having huge anxiety attacks over this, he replied this evening:

Sorry been really busy, and wrapping up things before I leave. No, there wasn't a "hidden" message in the video, I wouldn't do that. Things went very fast during our first rendez-vous and thats unlike me tho!
Hope you had a nice weekend and no Monday Blues today!

How do I reply to this message from him without scaring him off, but at the same time I want to tell him I am attracted to him and would love to see him again.

This whole dating game is new to me as I was married for 25 years

Thank you in advance

[Elsam]

@Geoff

Wow! That’s excellent news, hope you had a lovely time together

Can’t wait for the good news!!

M xx

[geoff]

Hello Elsam RX and everyone else, it all went very well thanks, kissed and cuddled which was lovely, not much different than when we do see each other, but went home.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Elsam]

@Geoff

Woohoo! So happy for you, hope she has the same feelings for you...

How long have you been separated if you don’t mind me asking.

M xx

[jtjt_4862]

Hi everyone,

Wanted to chime in to the discussion to say:
@Elsam - I'm really happy for you, it sounded like a really fantastic week, and hoping that no matter what lies ahead, you'll be able to enjoy the moment. It is as you said, we can never know how life changes.

@Geoff - I'm really sorry to hear about depression ruining your relationship with your ex. But really happy for you as well that you managed to meet up with her and had a great time together.

Hoping for the best for the two of you!

Jt

[Guest_1584]

Yeah really nice to hear elsam , everything crossed for you guys.

Same to Geoff so happy you and ex catching up and it going so nicely.

All the best.

rx

[geoff]

Hello Elsam, Jt and RX, thank you, I suppose it's been 16 years or so, time gets away from you so quickly, but we always share birthday, Xmas presents for our sons and our granddaughters.

Take care.

Geoff.

[Elsam]

@Geoff

Yes, 16 years is a long time, just like my 25 I spent with my ex.

I wish you much happiness and really hope you get to spend some more special happy times with your ex...

I am sitting here tonight listening to love songs on the radio and having sad thoughts of my ex and asking myself why he had to destroy our life after 25 years together..... Life is so sad to think we were once so close and loved each other and now divorced complete strangers!!

I am so in love with my new man, I have not heard from him for 2 days but I can see has not been online so assuming he is spending time with his family before he comes back.

I am counting the days now till he returns mid July. I am just so scared he is going to forget about me but he sent me lots of beautiful photos on Monday so he must be thinking about me to send photos.

I am just dying to see him back online...

[geoff]

Hello Elsam, she was my first real love and married for 25 years and I suppose, I only wish were together for both our sons and granddaughters to celebrate the good times and be there for them when they need it.

It's different when you're apart but caring for others, it's not the same.

Give your new love time, he might not be one who wants to communicate every day, but if you are in love, that's what I'd be doing.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Elsam]

I can’t stop thinking about my man I am so in love with.

We have still been messaging and sending photos

I am thinking about making a comment to him like:

Miss you or You are always on my mind

Would that be too much to say too soon or would that scare him off??

I feel like I have to let him know in a gentle way how I feel...

[Elsam]

@Geoff

That’s so lovely she was your first real love. It must be so hard separating a family. So sad for you too.

My husband was my real love too but sadly after 25 years he didn’t appreciate my loyalty.