FRIENDSHIP HELPPP

[Syringe]

Hi I'm in highschool and need help. My friend lets say Friend A has been dropped by EVERYONE from her school (diff schools) and she vented to me how everyone thinks she did bad things but she didn't, I was supporting her and helping her along the way UNTIL I heard that she leaked a photo of a girls (self harm) and another girl half naked in the changing room. WHAT. But I was confused. Friend A would never do that, she helped many people out of sucicide so why would she do that? Due to my personal reason I am changing schools and going to her school, she said she is transferring and not meant in a bad way but I want her to. shes getting bashed up everyday and we live like 5 hours away and totally diff schedules. also I feel bad. I really want my friends I have now, and my friend I have been with since kindy, but they all hate her I don't want to dump her because she has been there (sometimes if im being honest). I'm trying not to believe them but its getting to a point where its getting every convincing. If I move to her school while she is still there, I will get in more drama when I transferred for a reason. I was thinking to maybe just talk to her and everyone and be on good terms with everyone. but if that doesnt work what will... please help me. I can't get in more drama. I already suffered from depression, anxiety from school, stress, friends and drama. I'm begging. please dont skip this.

[Psychdiaries2]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out on here! I can only imagine the stress and confusion this situation has caused you, and it’s totally valid. 

In my experience, whenever there was someone at high school who is rumoured to be doing terrible things in secret, it usually happened to be true. It’s definitely not a good sign if your friend has been involved in these scandals because they sound awful. Honestly, her moving to a different school doesn’t mean you have to stay friends. You might not anyway since like you said you are hours away from each other and have different schedules. I think it’s probably time to move on from the friendship then. Friendships sliding apart is common when you’re growing up and it happens naturally sometimes. 

If she is not transferring, again, you don’t have to continue to be friends with someone you don’t trust. If you know you’re going to get into drama, then the best way to avoid it is to be around genuine people who are loyal friends and aren’t going to stir anything up. If you want to speak to her about where you stand in the friendship, that sounds good. If not, I think it’s ok to let things fizzle if you don’t want the friendship anymore. 

Hope this helps. Good luck with everything and you are more than welcome to keep chatting here on the forums. All the best!