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Feeling like the left out sibling...
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I am the youngest of 3 and the only girl.
I have grown up as the child who was just there, my eldest brother was favored, and my middle brother is the loud attention needing child. We are all married with children.
The older we all get, the more i feel my middle brother just seeks more and more attention.
Our parents recently purchased a new holiday home, and call it our family holiday home.
My eldest brother who has 2 grown children, a spare room for them has been allocated, which is fine as they are in their teens. My middle brother has 2 children, both younger than my only son.
It was left to me assuming, my room, would consist of space for my son, and my middle brother would have both his children in his.. afterall its just a holiday home!
But its come to my knowledge, my middle brother has now made the spare TV room a room for his 2 children as he needs "space" however if the bunk for my son goes in there too he is worried his little child will use it and fall. I understand children, however noone asks me BEFORE any change. It would be nice to be asked " hey do you mind... " not.. this and this is happening, what do you want to do?
What option am i left with? I just found this triggering that middle brother needs space for his kids too, when they are so young is a little dramatic. These things make me feel like more is spoken behind my back and also draws me away from wanting to spend time with them.
Bummed little sister in her 30's lol...
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Hi Aria87,
Sounds frustrating, middle children are often attention seekers especically with a younger sibling close together in age.
However what you have spoken here could be spoken to the family. They are family and the good comes with the bad. I would approach it by arranging a time to just sit down with your parents and siblings and just have a calm but well thought out - and perhaps practiced before hand talk about the points you would like to bring up.
Tell them you love them, but this is how you are feeling. If they don't know or you only bring things up in anger it will just bring up walls, but things spoken in sadness will let them hear you.
I feared a lot of rejection from family and recently just brought up what was bothering me. There's no point carrying that weight inside and the only way forwards is through it.
Hope that helps and good luck!
