Dear BettyBooBOO~
I'd like to join Smallwolf in welcoming you here, I'm glad you came as your life has been a hard one for quite some time.
For oyu and your son to to be emotionally abused a husband, and for him to have alcohol and drug addiction for the last three years or so would have been most harmful both to you and your child.
Taking out a FVRO must have called for a great deal of desperation and I'd expect it left you wiht a fair degree of soul searching - even though you did the right thing.
I'm sure you are right and there is a wall between you, and he is the one that built it, culminating in the FVRO. Basically I think the onus is on him to make the effort to un-build that wall by continuing to not use alcohol or drugs, and to never abuse you -or your sun.
This is not to say he should to be assisted by encouragement. To overcome addictions is no small thing and being told so helpful.
Undoubtedly the FVRO will have left him feeling less secure and no longer free to rely upon you to meekly take whatever he dished out. So he has to learn to live under those new conditions where he cannot do whatever he liked.
I can quite understand why you feel at a loss and rejected at the moment, and I'm sure look back on happier days in the past. You are basically dealing with a new person, one who has had to recognise you are a strong peron in your own right.
It may take time but he has your love going for him, his knowledge he has managed to change, and your desire for him to live happily with you.
Perhaps that can all be conveyed to him by talk, perhaps by a family councelor?
What do you think?
Croix
