Oh, babe, I want to give you the biggest cuddle. You literally gave yourself the biggest and bravest gift, only to be tied up in all this... Mess is common, but I would look at practicality and stability before anything else right now. Could this woman cost you a job? Could you face this drama at work for another year? if that doesnt look positive Id actively look at somewhere else to work. Its not sustainable. Also if your partner is so dependant on you I would honestly look at your future, is there a good chance he will one day be able to provide like you do and be there for you? If its unknown at this point id slam the hold button. No marriage until you can see the relationship you feel that you deserve. I know its our duty to love and support through thick and thin but you need to give yourself a chance to witness it being reciprocated. You can protect yourself, take things slow, be cautious, and love the man you want to be with all at the same time. Regarding peoples opinions on why he proposed, i wouldnt listen, how would they know, its absurd. Protect yourself lovely, youve got this.
