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Hello Dear Blue69,
A very warm and caring welcome to the forums,
I am so sorry that your partner is treating you and your son that way...
I agree with Sleep and TonyWK...
Your partner sounds very controlling by banning you from an event you want to go to, He also sounds abusive by the way he is speaking to you and putting you down..
I was in an abusive and controlling relationships for 38 years...Its a very sad and hurtful life to stay with someone who doesn’t respect you.....
It’s a choice that only you can make Lovely Blue, whether you leave him or not....but honestly I wanted to say...That you, no one for that matter, ever deserves to be treated in any other way except with respect and care.....You don’t deserve to be treated that way....ever...
My kindest and most caring thoughts dear Blue69..
hello and warm welcome to you.
I mainly want to echo the sentiments of those who posted before me.
It takes courage to the post your story on the forums.
Sometimes when you (read "I") write here it is to get the thoughts out of your mind. Or trying to work out what to do next.
And as Grandy said, it sounds abusive to me as well, and you deserve a little happiness and treated with respect. If you want to chat some more, we are all here to support you at this time,
Hello Blue, an unsatisfactory situation for you, especially as you've named your thread 'Emotional abuse'.
No amount of money entitles anyone to think they should have control over a person, unfortunately, this happens too many times, which means you can't sneeze unless you are allowed to and your life is restricted to the full extent.
Is there a chance he believes that you will give any money to any of the other four children, especially as he doesn't like you giving money to your son you are looking after.
A relationship that is plodding along but very happy together is much better than a rich one where you have to ask if you can enter the room, and if not told to go away.
Wellcome to our forums!
Im sorry this is happening to you.
No one has the power to ban you from doing anything!
You are your own person and you can make your own decisions .
If you want to see your other children then see them.
YOU have seen the red flags…… listen to your gut…….
Stand up for you and your son you both deserve a life with love and happiness.
You know yourself what the right thing to do is for you and your son.
Move forward and have the life you want.