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Echoes of Departure

aussieboy2024
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Yesterday marked the end of my six-year relationship. What I anticipated would be an ordinary day took an unexpected turn, leaving me feeling numb and bewildered. When I sought to discuss it, she declined, expressing her unhappiness and need to depart, yet affirming her love for me. The transition from years of daily conversations and waking up together to a sudden halt is profoundly challenging.

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white knight
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Hi, welcome

 

I've been there and I'm sorry you are going to endure a few weeks of misery. I've had relationships spanning 7,11 and 10 years duration and now am in a happy marriage of 13 years.

 

The grief will be there for some time before you turn the corner. Your belief that things will get better is a good thing even though it doesnt seem that way. Bury your head into activities, keep busy, allow yourself to fall in a heap then limit that time by saying to yourself "enough of that, I'm going to wash the car". Distraction is your friend. Think of the positives- if it had of gone on for years longer, it would have had a worse result.

 

Think about interests like following that footy team that she didnt take an interest in etc. Buy a motorbike or something to pamper yourself, set out plans on paper, write... I used to visit my favourite beach, look out onto the ocean for a long time.

 

So, eventually you'll recover and seek someone more aligned to yourself and be appreciated.

 

Reply anytime

 

"Time is amazing, it heals, it ages us and brings with it the wisdom we were starved of..."

 

TonyWK