Depressed after rocky breakup
Someone once told me that you’ll never be enough for the wrong person, and I think it also works in reverse, that you’ll never be “too much” for the right person. I think that you may have fallen into the trap that a lot of people do in dating, which is wanting that connection badly enough and all the trappings of a relationship rather than seeing the person for what they actually were. I don’t think it’s “clingy” or “obsessive” to want to go on a date with a person more than 3 times in 4 months, most people wouldn’t. But instead of being upfront with you, she decided to twist it around and make you feel that you were somehow crazy for feeling this. That doesn’t bode well for a relationship with a person, denying and minimizing your perfectly reasonable feelings. Not only that, but to then say she loves you and to later deny/cheapen it by saying “oh I meant as a friend”, I don’t know about you but I rarely have such declarations for my friends. This period will suck, it always does, but mend your fences with your friends, it will get easier with time.
i haven’t really talked about this to many people but last year in october i dated a boy for like a week and ever since we have been still talking good and meeting up with each other a lot and he started to hit me and make up so many jokes and everytime i go to hit him not in a bad way he would get angry. no matter what i do he doesn’t care. it’s a toxic as relationship but whenever i’m not talking to him or we have had a fight i start to shut down and get depressed and want to give up. i can’t do it and then he would come back to me and i was the happiest but everytime he would leave i hated it. recently he got into a relationship and he doesn’t want anything to do with me. at school we would just walk past each other like strangers and sometimes yell at each other, i miss him so much and i know i need to let go but it’s literally so hard. he’s got me so attached. also when he wants something he always gets it no matter what, he hates it when he doesn’t get his own way all the time. he’s a user. he’s used me so many times and i kept going back to him. i’ve lost so many friends because of him