Confused, depressed and feel stuck

[R92]

I’m really hoping I can find clarity and help here. Me and my partner have been together 6 years and have broken up twice in that time. I have a daughter who is 11 (different father) and he and I have a 2 year old son together. He is a beautiful man and I know he would never hurt me physically but on the weekend we had a pretty big fight because I was standing up for my daughter and his response was “well if you don’t like it get out”… I’m still feeling really emotional and hurt by this statement as he knows I don’t have anywhere to go and no family ect. We have just gotten back together but we were still living and sleeping with each other while ‘broken up’. The plan was I was going to move out with the kids and was saving to do so. I just feel like no matter how much I save and no matter how much I do I’ll never have the money to move. I just had to transfer him $400 for half of the bills. I love him but mentally and emotionally I’m just done. I can’t afford the rent here on my own where we are ($500 a week) and really just want to be on my own in my own house. Not only do I need to save for the first 4 weeks rent, I need to buy a washing machine, bed and mattress for myself and down the track a dining table. I just feel really stuck and alone. 

[indigo22]

Hi R92,

Welcome and thank you for reaching out to us.

Your situation is a difficult one and I am sorry you are in this position. I am not surprised you are hurt by that statement, it is a very unkind response especially given he knows your current situation. It is mean spirited to take what you know about someone and use it against them in a disagreement.

Are you currently working? There are a few options if you are not working, but these diminish to a large degree if you are working.

I think the main thing is to think affordable right now, so my suggestion as far as your washing machine and table (perhaps even a bed) is to visit some of the second hand stores and op shops for something that will get you by for the short term and look at upgrading later.

I can offer some other suggestions if you are not working and would be happy to continue the conversation if you wish.

Take good care of yourself and children,

indigo

[indigo22]

Hi again R92,

Another idea just occurred to me that might be of interest to you.

If you can find someone advertising for a house sitter for a few months, it would give you more time to save for your own place and other needs.

Just a thought,

indigo