Blocking my father & changing my number

[blues23]

Lately I’ve had a lot of family dramas fights ; disagreements: disrespect & now a form of betrayal my father had given my mother my number I have spoken to him before about  not sharing stuff with my mother he has  shared it to her without my consent or knowledge my uncle called and I was surprised because I didn’t know he had my number so I ask my dad and he’s like yeah I gave it to ur mother ur uncle asked for it and I’m like did u not think to ask me  or even tell : why should I have to ask u was my dads response   And we went thru a whole argument of him denying anything my mother ever did  anything to me growing up basically  trying gaslighting me into believing that nothing ever happened and I’ve since blocked him changed my phone number because I just don’t trust him anymore to not share it again behind my back . I feel a bit sad as I’ve now lost my dad ,my relationship with my sister is strained due to a different issue we had and it’s like I’m pretty much left to my own self it’s quite lonely but how  much longer can I go on trusting my father who has yet again broken another boundary in regards to sharing my details without my consent. I just wonder if I’m being over dramatic or over sensitive or something by  feeling bad for basically removing my dad

ive also in the past my dad has disowned me / threatened to cut me off  out of his will /  told me i wasn’t his child and all because I wouldn’t go see my mother to stop her nagging at him 

[luke_c]

Sorry to hear that mate, at least my dad would never cut me off or threaten me, did I inspire you to write this?

[Psychdiaries2]

Hi there, 

Welcome back to the forums, it’s nice to have you back!

I am sorry to hear the tough time you’re going through today with your family. Firstly, you are  not being dramatic or overly sensitive. Your dad crossed a boundary and that does mean there will be consequences. Please don’t feel bad about yourself for setting boundaries. It is an important thing to do in relationships, and of course it’s important that they’re followed of course. I imagine it must be very frustrating and disappointing to find out that someone you trusted has gone behind your back, and it is so hard to trust that person again. The truth is, you don’t have to if you don’t want to. You don’t have to surround yourself with people you don’t trust. You deserve to be around people who make you feel comfortable and who would never betray you. 

You mentioned that you feel lonely now, and that is ok. We are here to chat whenever you want. You can also ring the Beyond Blue number for immediate support too if you like. Also, do you have anyone else in your life to chat to? Perhaps a friend or someone at a club? They may be able to listen and be there for you throughout this as well.

Keep reaching out and I hope things get a little easier for you soon. Wishing you well

[blues23]

Hi Luke-c 

no no inspiration from your post  I did read your post .my dad my family dynamic is quite toxic at times if I’m honest with myself  it has been for all my life toxic . My dad threatens me any chance he gets along with u know random things if I don’t do things he wants I’m guilted and treat like crap  nagged sworn at so I’m apparently from what I’ve been told have a trauma bond with my dad and the abuse I’ve had to go thru .it would be nice if my dad world understand and not fly off the handle any minute I don’t do what he wants or question his motives or dispel his ideas of my mother and the things she did . I’m sure she’d gaslit him but he can never see thru it 

[blues23]

Thanks psychdiares2 

I don’t have much support my support was 1 family member but that’s kinda strained a lot we don’t talk much anymore I think they are like silencing or on semi silent with me