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Day 4 of no contact. It’s killing me. I am having a bad day. I just can’t get my head around everything that has happened. From him saying that I am the love of his life to now just friends.
I hate this disease. It’s ruining his life and now mine is affected by it.
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Hi!
i went 4 days with no contact. Made contact yesterday and it was positive. I was open about how I was feeling. He opened up a little bit with me and he has been making some self-improvements, which I am so extremely happy about. I have felt better after that conversation and have felt better than I have since it all started. I’ve been reading a little bit and trying to find things to occupy my mind. That’s the best way to do it.
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Hello Lee, I know it's been a most difficult time for you, but I think you have made the right decision because what you want doesn't match what he wants.
You are able to move on as you have said, and I know this takes incredible strength, but remember the lesson which we have to realise is to look after yourself.
We can help anyone when they accept our assistance but when it starts to affect us when nothing happens, it's time to look after yourself.
I'm really sorry for you.
Geoff.
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Thank you Geoff.
I am finding it hard to come to terms with it. I just see the good in him. He has never mistreated me until the depression kicked in. I know that it is for the best for both of us. I think he is going to be hard to get over.
I will continue to write on here because I have found it quite comforting.
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Hi Lee, can I ask how the last couple of days have been for
Geoff.
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Hi Geoff
It has been really hard. He came over yesterday to pick up some things. At first I had my walls up.
We ended up having a good chat. Not about the relationship. I didn’t want him to start to feel like that’s all I will talk to him about when he calls/sees me. It was quite nice. He told me a few things about what’s going on in his life. Just like old times. It was like he was his old self.
When he was about to leave, he gave me the biggest cuddle. Was stroking my back and really snuggling into me. I got a bit upset. I went to let go but he just kept holding me. He gave me a tight squeeze and let go. When we went to say good bye, he did it again. He gave me a kiss on the lips. We held hands for a little bit.
It’s quite confusing but I have to look at it as a nice good bye. If I hold onto this, it will just delay my progress. It’s hard not to though. It’s also hard to know what he is thinking when he is in this headspace.
thank you for checking up on me.
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