Traumatic cesarean birth

[Mm8kids]

Ive had depression and anxiety for a few years but 10 weeks ago it has gotten worse..i had my 6th cesarean (8th baby) the cesarean part was no big deal for me but i was diagnosed with low lying placenta from time i was 12 weeks preg..i told my husband i need help with the kids and house work etc as i was told not to lift and b on my feet to long..he told me to buy the kids wateva they want to make things easier..i told him this was not the solution..fast forward at my 28 weeks scan i was told i might have placenta acreta where placenta attaches to uterus and cause complications during birth and results in hysterectomy..at 34weeks scan showed everything to b fine..37w5d i had my cesarean..10 minutes afta they started doctor tells me they need to put me to sleep...i woke up that afternoon in extreme pain..once bak in my room they told me they did hysterectomy as placenta had gone right thru the uterus..my daughter was tiny but perfect and healthy..its been 10 weeks i havent left the house..i have night mares..my husband mocks my pain he tells me to get over it and b greatful..i am very greatful as i have been blessed with 8 healthy kids but this is so painful for me..at times i wish i jus bled to death then having to deal with this pain all alone...i dont expect him to understand but i wuld love jus a lil support from him..so sorry but had to vent

[Guest_3712]

Hey Mm8kids,

OMG you need a medal - 8 kids is amazing . Sorry thought that hubby is less than supportive at the moment and telling you , " to get over it" is not helpful at all

Time to get out of the house and see your GP at least. The pain from caesarean is enough to deal with let alone a hysterectomy as well. 10 weeks is a long time to still be in such pain and no wonder as rest would be impossible with 8 kids.

Any family support available to help you out and give you a break ? Maybe hubby could spring for a housekeeper, or baby sitter for a while to help out . Like you said buying whatever they want is not the answer.

How old is your eldest ? Do all the kids have their own jobs to do to help you out ?

Not sure about services in you area but if you go see your GP I'm sure they maybe able to suggest some support through local community or church groups

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are going

Stressless

[Blue_Jane]

Hi there

Firstly, congratulations on the birth of your daughter. She sounds wonderful.

I agree with the suggestions which Stressless makes above. Especially the point around seeing your GP. It might be helpful if your husband hears what you are going to say/have shared with your GP. Do you feel comfortable doing this?

Have you spoken to him about being more understanding and working together as a team? I can only imagine that having a big family relies on organisation and communication and it sounds like he could be doing more. Do you already thank him for doing little things? Does he respond to the recognition?

I look forward to hearing from you.

Blue Jane