Sexual assault, following & intimidation

[Corinaf]

This is a long story but I’ll try sum it up.So basically 2 of my friends were dating and they broke up because the guy (Baxter) sexually assaulted my friend (Rosa) - it was a very heavy topic and I was on the phone to Baxter and went off at him because of doing such a terrible thing to my friend, and I didn’t release but he had people in his car listening in to everything I was saying. I then rang my friend Rosa back and told her I was going to go for a walk just to clear my head but stay on the phone to her in case anything bad happened as Baxter knew where I lived. I was scared but thought he most likely won’t come up here. I kept saying to Rosa on the phone “I feel like something bad is going to happen because he knows where I live, so I’m going to call my ex boyfriend (Jayden)” I then hung up and called Jayden and just said “hey can you meet me in the bottom of your street as Rosa and Baxter broke up and I feel something bad is going to happen but I’ll explain everything to you when we get there “ I hung up and called Rosa back, and by then I had noticed a red car following me around , it pulled up beside me and the back window rolled down and it was Baxter. I said “how did you know where I was as I don’t have my location on for anyone” and he just said oh don’t worry love we’re just going for a drive. Next minute him and two other boys jump out of the car and start circling in on me and backing me into a bush - they started throwing around all of these threats, luckily Jayden had showed up when he did because I don’t know what would’ve happened if he didn’t Is just it’s been so hard to navigate my feelings since it happened. Like it was really traumatic. I can’t sleep, I can’t eat and I can’t feel safe in my own house anymore because im scared their just going to show up at any point And I guess factoring my experience with men and abuse and sexual assault it just made it a lot worse 

[Croix]

Dear Corinaf~

Welcome to the Forum, a good place to get ideas from others.

"Rosa" has a good friend in you and feeling anger at her treatment is only natural. It is a pity it did not stop with the phone call but ended up with you being backed into a bush and threatened by Baxter and his cronies. He obviosly thinks he can do what he likes with women.

You have good instincts and calling your ex was just the best thing you could have done.

I can understand your apprehension that Baxter may try something else.  Is there anywhere you can stay for a while until this incident is no longer fresh? Just locking your house securely is not going to make you feel that safe, it's only natural to feel fear under the circumstances.

One thing to consider is you were assaulted when threatened and surrounded and you  could report it to the police. While I am not sure what action they would take your account may tie in with other complaints making action more likely. It does however have the down-side that Baxter may become more angry, something you need to weight up.

This is something Rosa herself could report after Baxter assaulted her.

Have you discussed this with anyone, Rosa and Jayden perhaps? Being with someone else for a while is most probably a good idea

You might find it useful to talk to our 24/7 help line who may have some advice on resources you can go to.

I do feel worry about you and the situation, if you felt like saying how things go on that would be great

Croix

[Croix]

Dear Corinaf~

You have been going though a particularly nerve-wracking and frightening time so I've just popped in to see how you are going. Have you manage to stay somewhere else for a while?

Croix