Ready To Do My Charlie!

[TBella]

Bad news from my family interstate yesterday. Miles away from my family worried about them & feeling helpless, stressed.

Then at work, I am stuck in a toxic, unhealthy & unprofessional place- where today my boss totally undermined me in front of the child I sent inside for hurting another child. Totally disrespected me because she wanted to kiss butt & not give a stuff about her staff. Leaving me feeling like worthless poo!

No chance of the kids listening to me at work now, when the boss undermines my authority. But it's ok for her staff to be verbally abused & some have also been physically assaulted by children.

Now it's almost 2:30am & I can't sleep because the noisy, inconsiderate neighbours seem to think it's ok to play loud music at this hour & don't need to use their inside voices.

Its alomost every night & ive had enough! I am so fed up with living in a superficial, fickle, self absorbed & self entitled world, where no one has life skills, social skills or even manners.

SERIOUSLY how flipping hard is it to show consideration, common courtesy & respect to humanity!!

Just to be aware of others around you!

GRRRRR!!!!! It makes me so angry & sad. It makes me feel like an alien from different planet.

planet manners or planet respect perhaps!

I ready to lose my Charlie! And then I'm angry that I'm angry coz that's not the real me & a total waste of energy!

Arrrgh so stressed! So over this world- give me a Labrador dog any day! It's really not that hard to be kind, treat people with respect & yet it can make the world of difference to someone's life!

Beam me up!!!

Ok end of rant. Thanks.

Ticked of Bella

[Guest_9809]

Hi Bella. Yeah, I dont blame you for being ticked off! And I am a bit like you in that my family are all a very long way away, which is doubly hard when any of them are sick or in need of support. I see your work situation is not helping either. And inconsiderate people! Arrg, one of my abolute pet peeves.

Anyway we are about to get a planned all day black out here from 8am. And after reading your post I didnt want to lose it, so quickly responded. I will be back to say hello again after power is back on after 4pm.

I hope the rant in the wee hours of this morning helped? It often does me, when I get it all out there.

Gym for me this morning for pilates/yoga classes.

Thinking of you TBella.

Taurus xx

[TBella]

Thank you so much Taurus.

Must be annoying to have a blackout, especially for that long.

I hope you enjoy the Pilates/ gym session.

Take care

xBella

[Neil_1]

Hi there TBella,

That sounds like a horrible situation at your work … even though it’s now happened, is there anyway to speak to your boss or are they the unapproachable type?

With regard to the home situation, would it make it any better or easier, if you were to phone the police to report them? I’m guessing you’re in a complex of apartments or the like, so that they wouldn’t necessarily know who tipped the police off? But I 100% agree, there should be standards and manners and consideration shown by everyone and what they are doing is the complete opposite and it pisses me off that they are doing this.

Neil

[TBella]

Thanks Neil

My boss makes excuses and if she gets found out by the manager she lies & throws her staff under the bus.-always blames someone else, never owns it. I have sent Manager emails listing many events where, children have come close to serious injury & death. But some how's she's still there as boss.

I dread going to work because it's such a toxic place & I feel like parents put their kids in our care- trusting they are safe. Yet I know the service fails in their duty of care, almost on a daily basis.This goes against my conscience & convictions. Fair bit of bullying goes on also! I am trying to think of another line of work I can do & get a new job.

I have to detach just to get through each shift.

Regarding the noisy neighbours, I emailed the complex & made a complaint- see what happens.

Thanks for your reply & suggestion, greatly appreciated.

Kind Regards

TBella

[Croix]

Dear TBella~

I've only one thought to hand you, no doubt you have thought of it for yourself, but perhaps if there is another telling you it might be a little more real.

You - that's you TBella - make a difference. The whole world is not entirely made up of arrogant selfish shallow cruel people. Thank goodness there are TBellas in the world.

Each one doing what they can in the little space around them. Oases of sense and kindness.

I've seen your other posts. You count.

Croix

[TBella]

Thank you

[Neil_1]

Hi there TBella,

Thank you for getting back to me … and I can feel how difficult it must be for you at this current place of work. For you to also say how poorly this particular place performs … I’m guessing they must have just scraped through with their accreditation when it was due.

Such a horrible thing to do by the boss and from what you’ve mentioned, you’ve done everything above board and correctly … I was going to mention about getting things down on paper, with dates, etc, but you’ve already done that.

Two trains of thought here: the first being, do you think other staff would be of your opinion about the boss and so you could get back-up when you approached the manager … so it’s not just coming from “one person”. Then when then boss tries to lie about situations, perhaps the staff could counter that? I know it all sounds very confrontational, but just wondering if other staff feel the same way?

The other thought I had, is there any chance that you could try to get a job in another similar style of place? To me it’s sounding like a child-care place, so I guess it all depends on where you are, as to the possible availability of other places close by? And then it depends on if there are any vacancies at the moment? I guess if this is the situation though, it never hurts to throw a baited hook out … you never know, you might just get a bite?

I hope the complex management are able to follow up and get back to you? Just had another light bulb come on above me … in the complex, are you friendly or even semi-friendly with others there? Ie: anyone who you could ask to see if they are affected by these rude obnoxious people? Again, I’m sounding again like the comment with your work, but again, if there can be more than “one person” making the complaint, surely people should sit up and take notice?

Kind regards

Neil

[TBella]

Thanks Neil

every staff member has the same view of the boss & many have made their concerns known to manager.

I have been there for 15 months & in 15 months we are up to our 5th assistant coordinator & 11 staff have left . No one can stand working with her or under those conditions. A number of staff have left because of anxiety & panic attacks they were having since they started working there. Others have left due to being bullied & humiliated in front of children & staff.

I do want to leave, I don't want to do child care anymore but it's all I ve done for past 21 years & I am not sure what I would like to do.

I like working with animals, photography, travel, writing but I haven't figured out how to turn that into paid employment yet! Lol!

Re: Noisy neighbours, I have not heard back from them but they were very quiet last night.

if I have anymore trouble, I will contact body corp.

Thanks again for your suggestions.

I hope you have a great day.

Kind Regards

TBella