Has anyone had any experience with someone with PTSD who is addicted to driving uber

Tigermoth
Community Member
Can someone give me some advice or help me understand? My husband is driving uber till 2 and 3 am. I have tried begging him, reasoning with him, threatening to leave, nothing works. I am feeling very tired most of the time as I am going to work on disturbed sleep (sometimes only three to four hours). I asked him to come home before 2am tonight and he just snapped at me that he was going out to make money. I thought he was starting to better but now I wonder. He has become very self centered and Uber has become his addiction
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dueb
Community Member
no not uber but game of war,family member ex starie been to war zones 6 months or more away he is back now.he will play all night and spend money on that game,yes hes got ptsd,almost got killed at least a couple of times.iv known him for more than a decade good bloke but boring he will just talk about cars and complain about politics,we could have a good time together iv done the army and been in risky situations to,he got a fast motorbike but wont come riding we are both Adrenalin junkies.a close relative died just before xmas he did not go to the hospital to kiss good by.i asked his wife why hes not here,so she told me,internet game of war and ptsd,hes been hiding this for years,she begged me not to say anything to him.so at xmas lunch i did all the talking talked about all my good and bad life experiences,no car no politics,he did not mention his ptsd but he did talk about is game problem and his job experiences.so i talked to him in nice calm conversation.one step at a time slowly.i msg him more often to for ex.living on bend'd knees on motorbike is better than bend'd knees on a chair.

JessF
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Hello Tigermoth, it's difficult to know how to respond without more information. If your husband has a PTSD diagnosis then it may well be that driving around in a car feels like a safe space for him, particularly at night when he may be experiencing flashbacks or disturbing dreams. Giving himself something to do is a distraction, not an addiction.

However I'm more concerned about you. Why is your sleep being disturbed? How do you see this being resolved? Are there other aspects of the relationship that trouble you, or just this?