Hi, I'll try to explain properly so bear with me. So my little sister
and I currently moved out of my father's house due to his anger issues.
Since our mum passed almost 2 years ago, it's just been us three. My dad
and I have had some arguments here ...
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Hi, I'll try to explain properly so bear with me. So my little sister
and I currently moved out of my father's house due to his anger issues.
Since our mum passed almost 2 years ago, it's just been us three. My dad
and I have had some arguments here and there about small things like
household chores and stuff like that, and since last year, he's been
blaming my 'change' of attitude because i've had a boyfriend, which is
not true. Every time that happens, my dad would start to raise his voice
and I would try to be calm but when I talk to him, I just get really
frustrated. Also, the way that he sometimes asks us to do something for
him is more of like a command to do what he wants to be done. He's very
strict and he just loves to complain about what we do wrong, even a tiny
bit, to his sisters. I am 23 and my sister is 12 and the three of us has
depression. Anyways, this past Sunday, something happened. It's a bit
hard to explain, but my sister was in the kitchen when all of a sudden I
hear her yell out in pain because my dad punched her in the arm and I
heard her yell out, "Stop, what are you doing?" then she ran towards her
room. Just so you know, these kinds of things happened before when it
gets bad but we let it slide because he's still our father and he never
lets us forget that, but this time, I saw my dad run towards her room
and try to break down her door, saying things like, "I'll kill you" and
just full on swore at her. I told him to calm down but he kept saying
things that really cut to the core. He said that it was her fault that
our mum passed away because of stress from processing her adoption
papers. Also, he keeps saying that he regrets bringing her here in the
country and some other hurtful things that you never say to a
12-year-old much less your own daughter. Mind you, he has said these
things to me too. It hurt a lot and I told him that but he said it's
just words. "I don't mean it and I would never do anything to harm my
daughters." So now, after a few hours, we snuck out and went to our
elder sister's house because we don't feel safe there anymore. His
sisters kept calling us and blaming me for everything that happened a
few days ago, even though I keep telling them that he THREATENED TO KILL
US. They said that it's normal to be angry and say those things and my
sister and I should just say sorry and forget about it. Did we do the
right thing? I feel bad for leaving but we really don't feel safe there
anymore. Any advice?
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