PTSD

[Sam_mixed_up]

I have recently been diagnosed with PTSD and it's cruel, my husband of 27 years is a major trigger but he has done nothing wrong, he just doesn't listen he says he does but he isn't hearing what I'm saying, I have moved out of the family home and am in another state I did not spend Christmas with him and our adult son's as I can't control my emotions and get so angry and call them the most horrible names, yes I swear but these names would make the local drunk shudder, how do I stop doing this, I feel like I'm on a road of self destruction.

[mmMekitty]

Hello Sam mixed up, (May I call you 'Sam'? Is that okay? If not I'll continue to use your full username.) Welcome to the forum. I'm glad you have found this place, & feel comfortable enough to tell us about what you have been struggling with.

Since joining, I have found this to be a warm & caring place, with many people here to support others while needing some support themselves. We are people willing to listen & offer what limited (unprofessional) advice as we are able.

Do I understand, you did not welcome the diagnosis of PTSD? May I also ask if the diagnosis came from a GP or other health practitioner, such as a Psychiatrist?Are you now seeing someone to help you deal with your PTSD symptoms & to learn how to process all the emotions?

Sorry for all the questions. I think if we knew some more we may be able to help more.

I had a little laugh, not at you, but to think of the swearing, which may compare to some of my neighbours - so prominent in my own mind lately. They might give your swearing a run for your money!

I do wonder if you've thought of any other ways to express your emotions? You could enjoy doing some physical activity, like gym work, or sculpturing with clay, or getting out for some serious gardening? For myself, I'm so unfit, & have pain issues, so I use my words, writing, sometimes some very explici things, which I would never get posted here. I used to paint as well. I found it all helped to, temporarily, act as a circuit breaker. & I could go & be civil with other people.

As this is a recent diagnosis, I would also try to get you & your husband educated about PTSD, what it means, how it may manifest, how your hubby & adult son can support you. When other people around us begin to understand what's going on, the majority, (can't say it's everyone), of those close to us want to help. I'm sure they don't want to see you in so much pain & not knowing how to help.

There's all sorts of info here on BB, so take a look around. Ask questions, post as you feel to other threads if you like. This place is where you can feel safe & welcome & know you are not alone..

mmMekitty

[Sophia16]

Hi,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums and thank you for sharing your story. I can see that you are feeling overwhelmed.

Have you taken the time to find out what your triggers are? What words does he use to make you feel this way? or does he make certain expressions? It is a good place to start.

Once you find those out you can speak to your husband about it. Let him know specifically what triggers you.

In the meantime, have you tried mindfulness techniques? this can help relieve a lot of stress and improve sleep.

Stay safe and I am here to chat if you need me.

[AngeK]

Hi Sam,

I am also new to this community. I was diagnosed with PTSD 5 years ago. I experienced rage from the pit of my belly, all aimed at the wrong people. I was horrible to be around and I had three adolescent children you really needed their Mum.

I found that going to my Psychologist fortnightly and my Psychiatrist monthly really helped. You need a really strong network of professionals, family and friends.

Do you think you could explain what’s happening to your husband snd son? They might want you around, warts and all if you can explain how you feel.

I found taking my husband to some of my appointments helped.

I have done things of things over the years that have helped. From colouring in and gardening