Noisey neighbours and stress

[ElyseH]

Recently I had recovered from infection after infection which caused other issues. I couldn't work and was on bed rest. I found myself miserable, depressed and under a lot of stress. Right now I think im more on edge that I feel. I can't get to sleep im ot tired and when I am and can't sleep. On top of that I have noisey neighbours in a townhouse complex, I have complained 4 times about them and they can be outside for hours and hours just talking loudly drinking and swearing, sometime til 2am and sometimes for hours during a weekday.last night I don't know what came over me it's like it wasn't me but they were outside from 1pm till after 10 pm and getting worse. I had enough and I got up slammed open the window and yelled at them. But they started yelling, laughing and swearing back at me. This isn't me and now im more anxious they know who I am and might try to do something. I now can't stop running it through my head and having a conversation with these neighbours in my head where I'm having to justify my action to people who obviously have no regard for other people. I'm worried they'll keep doing it out of spite. I don't think they work. My mental health is not coping well and my job requires me be alert. It's just upsetting me that I lost it and I'm afraid for myself.

[Sophie_M]

Dear ElyseH,

Thank you for reaching out on our forums about your distress and fatigue. A lot of things are acting on your anxiety right now, and we can really see the impact this is having in your words. 
First and foremost, we want you to feel you can reach out to us to chat, on 1300 22 4636, and please do consider the webchat as well if that is more comfortable. If you are feeling at risk at all, or if your exhaustion escalates further, than please call 000 to stay safe.

Further to that, does your Townhouse complex have a strata management team, or title-holder representative you could speak to about the situation in the complex? We can certainly understand your frustration - physical health struggles to recover without rest. We hope your GP is also taking good care of you. 

Please do keep us in the loop with your mental health, ElyseH, I have no doubt your peers here in the forums will be wanting to reach out to  you in the meantime.

Please stay safe,

Sophie M.

[Croix]

Dear ElyseH~

I've read some of your previos posts and can understand how much stress you have been under. That taken with your recent illnesses makes it hardly surprising that you lost it and yelled at those people. It's only human, everyone has a breaking point.

Actually their culture sounds very different from yours, and I'd expect that not only are they used to being yelled at, but it would not be a big deal to them, just more of what they dish out or receive every day.

It may be your past life has made you more susceptible to worry, as your re-living the incident and anxious about them taking some sort of action sounds very like how I feel at times. In my case it is an anxiety condition and I did not improve until I had proper medical assistance.

May I ask if you have considered getting such aid too?

I also find that talking to a friend can help, even if it is just to get things off your chest - they do not have to try to 'fix' things, just listen and care. Is there anyone in your life you like that ? Someone from work perhaps?

As far as being disturbed by the noise goes, the house almost opposite mine has a succession of tenants, some very noisy. I get by with earplugs and soft music/sea/rain/forest sounds playing as I try to sleep

Please let us know how you get on

Croix

[geoff]

Hello ElyseH, when your neighbours have no consideration for you at any time of the day is unbearable and have been in the exact position as you.

My neighbour's garage was close to my bedroom window and every week end and second night (depending on the season) he would have the radio so loud, it was frustrating, so I would ask him if he could turn it down, sometimes he did, and most times nothing happened.

So in defence, I'd go out early in the morning, taking my dog for a walk and when I came home, I'd turn the car radio on loud, right outside their bedroom and from then on he would have his radio on softly.

Take care.

Geoff.