New member female 30s and in women s shelter

[Missaries]

I suffer from ptsd chronic pain ibs and sensoneural hearing loss and tonic tensor tympani syndrome. Sound problem.

these prevent me from socialising singing talking loud laughing loud

I noticed beign with my ex has made self image issues so bad but being eith him I always felt emotionally controlled

there was a lot bad things in the relationship

next week is gonna be so hard

more appointments

this is a 4 year ordeal now and I have no family or friends I feel comfortable sharing with.

im in bed right now I have $9 for next 6 days better than nothing and I live with women and I don’t want total,to them anymore

I feel they are emotionally draining and I just can’t be myself around them,

I don’t know how to do this so I am just going to pretend I’m always on the fone but I feel guilty.

i thought making friends would help but it seems not with my healtissues.

hope to hear form people here and keep me motivated to have faith.

I also want to mention I met a new guy but I think he ended it

[smallwolf]

Hi Missaries,

welcome to beyond blue.

I suppose that with the health issues you mentioned make life harder for you in the shelter? There is a lot going on in your life at the moment, health wise, getting out of a relationship and now being in a shelter. And so you don't have to talk to anyone you pretend you are on the phone. Yet the other people in the shelter would have come from a similar position to you (and a sort of commonality)? May I ask how the other people are emotionally draining for you?

I guess this is one benefit in being in an anonymous space - you can speak openly and honestly and not worry about feeling judged. You mentioned that you cannot open or share with anyone but here you are writing on the beyond blue forums - that in itself takes courage.Perhaps you might be able to see that as a positive.Do you want to share what you are feeling with someone?

Another positive (?) is that you have been able to get out of what sounded like a troublesome relationship. Can you see any positives of being where you are presently? A start of a new journey.... and we are all here with you.

Good luck with your appointments next week. If you would like to talk about something, anything, just rely to this post and I can respond.

Tim

[Missaries]

thankyou tim

the girls don’t have ptsd and sound intolerance

there at the beginning of there journey and keep making me feel negative by retelling negativity

I can’t be around loud people there loud

I can’t even leave my room without being harassed with 100 questions about the shelter and stuff

hopefully some woman reply to my post too.

[smallwolf]

Hi - I am sure some women will come here and reply to your story. I cannot imagine what it would be like to have all those people asking you questions like that. The people who are there may be at the beginning of their journey and look you for advice? I get that because of your sound intolerance it would become too much for you.

What did you want to talk about?

[quirkywords]

missaries

Well come for writing here.

It must b what’d wit( your problems go out up with social situations and loud people all the time.

I am a woman. I understand it must b heard in the shelter with no privacy and people asking questions all the time.

I can see it would be hard when the people around you are at the start of their journey and are negative and bring you down.

It sounds like you are working hard to move forward,

What motivates you to stay positive?

We are here to listen and support you.

Quirky

[Doolhof]

Hi Missaries,

I too welcome you to the community here. Is there a quiet place in the shelter where you can sit by yourself?

Is it possible to be friends with a couple of the ladies and explain tot hem about some of your issues so they may be understanding of your situation? I find when I explain my situation to people they will either try to comprehend what is happening for me or they will move on.

Do you have any hobbies or interests that you can enjoy? I know you mentioned limited funds so that must be restricting for you.

When people talk in the negative, can you listen to them for a while then try to add a positive thought. I know there are times when I have needed to share all my negatives and just let it all out, then try to think of something good in all the not so pleasant.

It seems to me that most of us women like to chat and feel connected. I realise when we have health issues we also need some alone time. Hope you can find a balance.

Wishing you all the best from Dools

[Missaries]

Thanku😻

[Missaries]

Thanku not sure yet

[Missaries]

Thanku

[Missaries]

I will look for a new refuge.