Domestic violence

[Angiem]

• I have been in domestic violence relationship can't seem to avoid them for the last 23 years. 3 years ago I broke up with my ex because of I sick of him abusing me. I met someone else my ex didn't like it. When I was out for the day he invited himself around to my place my 4 children was there 2 of them were adults. He waited for us my partner and myself to get home. When I first got home I didn't think anything of it. There was no car in sight. My 19 year old daughter was scared coming running down the stair and said ex was there the whole day he is waiting down the road for you to get home and my youngest son who was 11 at the time and my other 2 older kids. Before I had a chance to get my other daughter in the car and take her someone safe then track my other kids down. He pulled into the drive way. He was trying to lock me in one of the bedrooms. I grabbed a hold of the stairs rail outside so he could push me up the stairs. He dropped me and ran under the house where my partner was at that time. He went to attack my partner but he spilt. I ran in and said no just go home before I call the police. He got up and grabbed me.  All my children was it. I was screaming for someone to call the police because he was not letting go off me. When he heard the sirens he grabbed my little boy who was 11 at the time and took him i haven't seen him once. There's no help out there. I had to leave my home was homeless due to it for 3 years still technically I am homeless. Government workers are useless because my son his still with that monster that attacked me. Where's the Justice. I have nightmare night terries. He put me through hell and he has my son. I am paying my abuser child support where's the Justice. Laws have got to change. Female are aloud to have a voice and to be treatment with respect. In the last 22 years 3 guys all abusive. I can't sleep most times it runs through my head. I open my eyes and I see him attacking me i fell asleep in my dreams I see him attacking me. To the point I cry in my sleep and kept saying no please stop over and over. People sometimes need to wake me up it gets that bad. 

[Croix]

Dear Angiem~

I'd like to give you a warm welcome here, somewhere you can talk about your experiences in safety with people that care

Your ex is the sort of person that is all too common. He wants to control and hurt you and for you to have no life but him. He has assaulted you and your new friend and made your children fearful as well as separating them.

He has driven you out of your house and placed your mind in a state where sleep is something to be feared.

You are right that unless you are very skillful the court system and distance orders are not always effective.  Can I suggest you get in contact with the Women's Legal Services (who are in each state) and see what they can do to help. They are very used to this cruelty  and manipulation of the legal system and are very competent.

1800RESPECT may also be of assistance, though I'd expect you have talked with them already.

I expect it is a silly question as you are sleeping in your car but is there any family or friend you can be with together with the children you have with you?

You know you will always be welcome here

Croix