Hi Jayla,
How are you today? I hope it’s a lovely day out where you are.
I just want to pop in to say hi and also;
What you experience is definitely not insignificant. We don’t have to justify how we feel based on what society thinks is significant. What happened had impacted you and that is significant.
The first step for me was accepting the pain and recognising that I’ve been hurting, that what happened was a significant event in my life. To give a background, I was sexually abused when I was 11 by a relative I was living with (this was in the country I came from). It was in the city and I had no other relatives to run to so I was stuck for more than half a year. There was no rape or anything like that, So I’ve felt for so long that I’m overreacting and I shouldn’t feel this way. This was a relative that gave me a place to live so I could go to better school in the city, leaving my grandparents (my mum was overseas working for the family). I should be grateful and that HE probably didn’t have that intention. When I got to Australia, my life was pretty good. Had better food, better family, better education and so on. So objectively, there was nothing to complain about and I shouldn’t be hung up in the past. I was way more fortunate than many others in my country or in here.
It took me awhile to accept that I wasn’t just being dramatic and stupid for hanging on to some stuff from years ago. I’m now on the road to recovery and things are progressing thankfully.
I can empathise with how you feel right now and I’m so sorry that you feel that what happened to you was insignificant. I’m glad you are talking about it and I hope that you always take care. I think giving Sophie’s and other’s suggestion a try is an awesome idea. I came here 4 years ago and found a comforting and safe place. Now with the Covid-19, I Cate back to talk to people and read about different experiences as well as other’s advices and strategies on various things.
All the best.
Febry.
xx
