Alone during covid19

[Tialee]

Hi, this is my first time posting and I guess it's a big step on my road to recovery o could go on and on g or hours
About my past hurt and trauma but I will save you all the agonising experience and just say it has left me with
A case of bpd , anxiety and depression .
At this present point in time the world is going crazy but I'm finding it extra extremely difficult to go on living.
I am a single mum I work full time and I'm currently off work due to a heap of medical issues .
My children are at their fathers so I can recover and get better from said health issues
As of tonight we go into lockdown which essentially means I am in lockdown alone and I'm finding it so hard to deal with .
My anxiety is crippling , my head is a mess and I guess I'm just wondering how everyone else is dealing with being away from loved ones ?,
Dealing with the extra added stress that the world is producing atm .?
Thankyou

[Guest_9043]

Hi there,

Thanks for posting. I would like to re assure you, you are not alone. Perhaps in the physical sense you are, however many many people are struggling. The changes have been swift and fast. It's big shock to anyone's system. Before this all hit suddenly I had a gone through an extremely severe mental breakdown two or three days before it. Being told that face to face counselling was off the shelf for me, groups being cancelled until further notice and events I wanted to go to cancelled was something that was not welcome at the time. I really needed all of that with the breakdown i just had. I don't even have any concept of time and which day it is most days. I have had to come up with solutions to cope and cope with ever changing rules added to the pre- existing ones. Many many Australians including yourself are fighting battles within themselves and also externally. It is bound to have a toll. All I can say is keep your chin up, post on Beyond Blue as much as you like and get the much need rest you need to recover.

Take good care of you.

2quik.

[ElectricBlue]

Hi Tialee,

I really feel for you during these crazy times. I understand how isolating and lonely it can be right now.

Are you able to facetime, skype etc. your kids?

Keep reaching out to others as much as you need to.

EB

[Tialee]

Thank you so much for replying , I kind of didn't expect anyone to reply .
I've never been in the headspace that I am in right now and just seeing that someone took the time out to reply has helped me so much .

[Tialee]

Thankyou so much for replying like I just said to the previous comment I really didn't believe anyone would comment .
After I put this up i downloaded some different apps to get hold of the children so hopefully their fathers think it's a good idea and download them too .

[Diddles]

Hi... I’m living alone too and it’s so hard. I have implemented a routine which has helped but the nights are really difficult and I am super lonely and anxious at the thought this could go on for a long time. I also feel like a lot of the media are covering stories on helping families cope but not a lot on how single people, living alone can. Seems odd, but it does feel nice to know there are others out there like me... so in a sense, I’m not alone.

[Tialee]

It really does seem odd getting satisfaction out of others downfall stories but it really makes one realise that they aren't alone that there are others put there struggling and some who have it worse
It puts things in to perspecrive that's for sure .
Also Thank you for replying 🙂

[ElectricBlue]

Hi Tialee,

I get what you mean. Knowing that others out there are experiencing the same thing can help (even if it's sad that it's happening to others as well). I think what it comes down to is feeling less alone and having people who can understand what you're going through.

I hope you've been able to video chat with your kids.

EB

[Lu_109]

Hi Tialee,

I'm quite new on here as well, so welcome!

I hear you, it's an extremely difficult situation and it sounds like you're doing your best in what's a really rotten hand of cards. I definitely know what you mean, and I'm experiencing a lot of increased anxiety myself from this whole covid situation.

What I've found really helpful, in addition to reaching out to loved ones via various online platforms (I've personally found that 'Hangouts' is quite good, and it has some hilarious trivia games you can play on the call) is various mindfulness techniques.

When I first started trying to practice mindfulness was definitely a bit daunting and I had a lot of questions. How do I know what will work? Where do I start? How do I choose which app?

What I did, was I started small. I did breathing exercises once a day for five minutes, and journaled when I felt like I needed to. I found that this worked well for me and now, do the breathing as I'm going to sleep and journal sometimes twice a day, which is really helping me 'get out of my head' and sort through my racing thoughts.

I'd also definitely recommend having a look at hobbies and ways to pass the time. It could be getting into writing, learning a new skill, or maybe researching something you've always wanted to know more about.

I was going to put in a link to a useful post about what to do when stuck at home, but I don't think we're allowed to put links, so I'd just google it and a lot of articles will show up, you just need to figure out which one resonates with you.

With all that being said though, please don't feel pressured to do anything you're not up to. Don't feel like you have to come out of this a whole new version of yourself. You're doing your best, and that's all anyone can ever ask of you. Stay strong.

Lu

[Guest_9043]

Hi TiaLee

Sorry I only saw this today. You are welcome and I do hope you are starting to feel much better or at least a tiny bit better.

2quik