Abusive Relationship

[jlr4392]

I am currently in an abusive relationship. AT first it started with the derogatory comments, the constantly being told and made to feel like I'm useless. It then escalated to physical, the worst of which occurred on Saturday night.

i suffer from depression and anxiety and am currently seeing a psychologist weekly but that is through Veteran Affairs and im afraid of the consequence of what will happen if i tell this to my Psych. Please help

[Sophie_M]

Hi jlr4392,
We are so sorry to hear that this has happened, but we are so grateful that you have reached out here today. We know how difficult it can be open up like this, and it is a big step that you have done this today. Please know that you have come to a safe space and our community is here to offer as much support, advice and conversation as you need. We also just wanted to let you know that we have sent you a private message with some additional support.
We hope that you check back in with our community whenever you feel comfortable and we look forward to hearing from you.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi jlr4392,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for being here. I'm really glad that you decided to reach out yesterday. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this and I hate that you are being abused in your relationship. I hope that you truly know that you don't deserve any of it.

I'm really glad that you are seeing a psychologist but I can understand your worries about telling your psych. I can tell you though that your psychologist is bound by confidentiality. Your psych will naturally be concerned, but at the same time want to go at the pace that you are comfortable with in terms of talking about things or thinking about/deciding to leave your relationship (and being safe through all of that).

One option for you too to get some reassurance is to ask your psych again about confidentiality and pose some hypotheticals. This can be a good way to gauge their response and feel more comfortable in telling them what you're going through.

Another resource to explore (if you are open to it) is 1800RESPECT. They have lots of advice and support (even through online chat). They also have info on technology and safety (like deleting your browser history) to support you.

I hope that this is helpful to you. I encourage you to reach out to all of the support available to you.

RT

[geoff]

Hello Jlr4392, thank you so much for posting your comment, and I'm just so sorry that you have to cope with this, neither physical or emotional abuse should never be accepted.

You should not be afraid to tell the psychologist what has been happening because you need to look after yourself, that's what matters, and you certainly don't have to put up with this silent treatment that can harm you in many ways.

Please let them know by writing it down on some paper so you don't feel embarrassed, this situation is where you are not harmed.

Please let us help you and take care.

Geoff.