Abusive ex has applied for a DVO

[Boeing747]

Hi all. I went through a BU 3 months ago. Having had much counselling I came to realise he was emotionally abusive resulting in me losing confidence & self esteem. 2 weeks ago he took out a temp protection order and DVO against me as we had an argument in which there was a scuffle and as I was emotionally hurting some horrible language. I have been temporarily stopped from attending a social swim group until court date in late January. I am anxious and feel I am being manipulated into leaving the shared swim group which has supported me through the BU. Legally there are options but fighting it will cost thousands and Ican't afford it. I feel lost and isolated.I'm in a world of hurt as I feel he has used the incident to be vindictive to purposefully isolate me from a much needed support group. I had just started healing and now feel this has set me back and I am once again under his control with very limited options. I dont qualify for Legal Aid.

[BballJ]

Hi Boeing747,

Sorry to read what you are currently going through, I do not have much experience in this field so I do hope someone with better answers will post and give you clearer advice. I am just looking at it from a purely outside perspective. The social swim group you are apart of, how did they come to find out you have a court date about this down the track or are you both apart of this group? Is it part of their rules for instances like these?

Please remember you can call the Beyond Blue helpline on 1300 22 4636 24/7 to discuss how you are feeling.

My best for you,

Jay