Dear Indianwoman~
I'm very glad to be able to join Hayfa in welcoming you here to the Forum. Just finding this place and making your first post wold have been hard, but it is encouraging, it shows that inside you are not beaten despite having had such a horrible life.
IVF is a very hard thing - you got though.
I'd like to say at the start that there are good marriages, and an awful lot of people treat their partners with love and kindness. It can be hard to remember that at times when always faced by a selfish tyrant who simply wishes to exploit you. I've been blessed, and when my first partner died I found another. It really happens.
Hayfa has given excellent advice on two fronts. First of course is the practical advice, seeking assistance is the very best option, it shows you that others have managed in the same circumstances, and it is so helpful to be assisted by experienced people. Stops you feeling directionless and lost and does reduce hte fear you must be feeling.
The second is to remind you that this is not just you , but your children and your mum. You have love to give and they return it. That makes a world of difference, you are not alone. It helps you be strong, as you were during the IVF. In future years you will be the example your children will have uppermost in their minds, a woman who took the actions that were necessary, was not beaten by harsh circumstances.
Hayfa is right. The first step seems terribly hard, and will in fact not be easy, however coming here is a start. If nothing else we can lend you perspective, to know your husband and father are totally unacceptable and that you have the same rights as any human being and deserve so much better than you have received.
Please come here and let us know about your life and how you get on. We care
Croix.
