When buttons get pushed

[Speak Your Truth]

Can anyone help ? My buttons have been pushed to the point of bringing on severe anxiety. Does anyone think this is curable ? I am desperate to feel relaxed and at peace again and to be able to enjoy my life. I don’t know how to cope

[Speak Your Truth]

No problem Pepper.

Hello to you too, and thank you ❤️

Cala

[Peppermintbach]

Thanks Cala. I hope you wake up to a good start today ❤️

Pepper xoxo

[Birdy77]

Hi Cala and Grandy and oh wow Pepper!!! 😊😊😊

Cala, I am so glad you don't think less of me, thanks to my crude movie recommendation 😳 I agree with you, I wish the world we live in was a lot more gentle ... I don't mind a few well placed eff bombs here and there, it doesn't bother me, especially in a quality film, I just wish life itself was more gentle. I feel a lot of our existence is based on inherent violence. But I will be careful next time I recommend a movie to you.

Lovely to see you over on the we❤animals / we-❤-the-earth thread Cala 😊 these are my names for that thread, you know the one I mean. I feel that's my home over there 😉 don't I Pepper.

Are you feeling any better? You went to the doctor today, I hope it's nothing mire serious than flu or cold. They can really knock you around.

Are you Pied Piping on Thursday, or still too crook?

I did a brave thing today. A friend I haven't seen for about 5 years asked to visit as they were coming to my area. I was honest and said I wasn't up to it, I said I've been struggling and would prefer to catch up when I'm feeling up to it ... his reply was so understanding and compassionate and gentle ... it was wonderful. My faith in humanity restored!! (For 5 minutes)!!

Love to you all,

🌻birdy

[Ggrand]

Hello Cala,

Im calling in to find out how your feeling...I want to thank you again for all your hugs and kisses. I took them to bed with me...My doggies loved them also...R U OK? I'm concerned about you, unless I've missed some I haven't seen you around for the last couple of days... I want to return...no not return caused I used all yours😁 up....I want to give you some hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗, as well as Huggly huggle hugs...Huggly is a very cloud soft giant fluffy Lavender scented soft cuddly toy,,, Take Huggly to bed with you tonight, guaranteed hugs all night...

Birdy...I so agree about life being more gentle, The films today and shows on tv I think are the cause of today's violence,,,I only watch children movies, fantasy magical shows on tv, but mostly I DVD, Just way to much violence and bad language on tv.. I think you were very grave Birdy, well done...I like that your giving yourself some self care...

Hello Peppy, ...I hope your okay today.💜🌹..

lots of warm hugs 🤗🤗🤗..

Grandy....xx

[Speak Your Truth]

Greetings Birdy, & Grandy, & everyone

It’s soooo hard communicating by written words isn’t it! We don’t get to see gentle, comforting, reassuring expressions on faces or tones of voices, a little smile ☺️, a wink 😉, a twinkle ✨ in the 👁 or maybe a little giggle 🤭

So Birdy, you just listen👂to me 😉, I need to explain more, your movie recommendation wasn’t crude. I don’t mind a few well placed eff bombs in movies either & from time to time one slips out, only quietly (reasonably so 😆) when I’m by myself & have to admit I do get a certain satisfaction, but apart from that it does not have a place in my life. I can’t imagine using the magic word in public at any time, but if I hear it I just have to let it “go over the top”. As for the magic word, or similar, with children, well I know there is a lot of it in the world, but it seems so wrong to hear that coming out of the mouths of babes. I want to wince with the discomfort of it. Children lose their innocence way too early these days as it is. Basically Birdy, don’t worry

yes, went to see dr today & am definitely much better now. I thought I could beat it with rest, but it had a good hold on me by the time I first went to see dr. I don’t like them but had to admit I needed antibiotics. It did knock me around, splitting headaches, head otherwise clogged up, raging sore throat, ugh! Pied piping up again soon.

good on you Birdy for being brave about your visiting friend. A pity not to catch up but you did what you needed to do for you, & that’s the most important thing

Grandy you had a few bad days this week, but I hope you’re feeling stronger now. Glad you & your fur buddies used up all the hugs & kisses I sent, here are more 🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️

Thank you for your hugs & huggely huggle hugs, oh they do feel sooo good & huggely smells devine, lavender is my absolute favourite ❤️

Its late now & time I was in bed. Today has been the biggest day I’ve had for a while & I’m tired

So goodnight dear Birdy, here are some hugs for you too 🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️

& in case you need more Grandy (afterall you are sharing them with your fur buddies) here’s another delivery for you 🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️🤗😘❌⭕️

Love Cala 😍

[Speak Your Truth]

Just posted to you and Birdy above Grandy but this bit wouldn’t fit so here it is seperately

Had a thought about your difficulty standing up for yourself Grandy. When you think about how to respond to different situations could you write them down & then practise them out loud? speak to the wall or maybe to something you can see through the window. If you could practice saying “No, I don’t agree with that” or “No, that’s not right” etc. over & over so you are used to saying things out loud it may be easier to do when you are at the dr etc. When you get used to hearing your own voice, your throat is used to you talking out loud in private, it might be easier away from home

love cala 🤗😘⭕️❌

[Ggrand]

Hello Cala,

Thank you very much for your suggestions in the above post, I really do appreciate them.

I have had everything worked out in my head what I am going to say then when the time comes I freeze..

I have stood up for myself a few times for myself and my son but they ended up not really good for me or my son..So I learnt to just take what is said to me, do what I'm told to and not to question it...I'm sorry Cala,I'm a lost cause where standing up for me is concerned..It only takes a certain vocal tone, look, or even a facial expression that can trigger me and in less then a second I'm in a really bad spot..Its just something that I will never be able to do...Im really sorry if I let you down.

Love and hugs .🤗..oh and 😘😘..

Grandy....

[Birdy77]

Hello Cala and Grandy and all 😊

Well Cala, I am glad it is all cleared up, I 👂 listened like a good girl to you and I get you! I agree, sometimes dropping an eff bomb in the privacy of one's own home can be downright satisfying. The furbabies don't mind!!! Well mine don't. Slight tangent, but semi-relevant: I went to buy some doggy jumpers the other day and the guy offered me a cat t-shirt with "Meeow" written on the back. I just looked at him. He said , dog's do not uunderstand English you know.

I laughed.

Some people ...

Grandy, I'm sorry, in a post a week or so ago, I meant that I always read and follow your thread ... I just don't always post there because you have a lot of people visit you there and sometimes it's easier to say something to you here or as I have done over at Deebi's ... just wanted to clarify that I do always keep up to date with what you post ❤

Thanks Cala, after I wrote my last post to you I realised that piking on a visitor does not sound so brave after all. However, for me it is: I have, for a large portion of my life, put whatever other people want/need, before my own needs/wants (I know Grandy will be getting this too) ... but in the last little while I've started to learn that my wants and needs are just as valid ... if I don't respect my needs, who will? So, for me, telling my friend that I'd prefer to catch up when I'm feeling a bit better was, as you said, good practice in self-care.

How is your flu Cala? I hope you're feeling a bit better.

Hugs and love

🌻birdy

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Cala and a friendly wave to all,

It’s good to hear you’re starting to feel better and seem to be recovering. It sounds like your doctor’s appointment went well 🙂

I read that you like hugs so I’ll happily offer some hugs if you’ll accept. Plus how does some lavender tea for you sound? I’ve never tried it but surely it must exist? Lol.

birdy: your comment about the we ❤️ animals and we ❤️ Earth gave me a chuckle. Good alternative names for that thread! Lol.

Pepper xoxo

[Speak Your Truth]

Hi Grandy, Birdy and Pepper

No Grandy❤️, of course you haven’t let me down. But I underestimated what could be achieved in a week. I do think though if you were able to practice my suggestion for long enough it could work for you. It might take a long time, but it could work. Anyway you’ve obviously had a tough week - I don’t know where you’re at now, but I hope you feel better than you did at the beginning of the week Grandy. I’m really very sorry and sad that life is so hard for you.

Birdy I hope you are ok 😘 - I know I haven’t been around much this week, but you don’t seem to have been either. Yes I’m over the lurgy now. It was so awful and it’s such a relief that it’s gone. It was pied piping day today but I didn’t get there - it was SOOO cold here this morning I couldn’t drag myself out of bed and get going in time. Also not feeling the best MH-wise. I have days/times when I feel quite good and then wham! I’m down again - it’s hard to take. What used to be ‘normal and easy’ for me to do most of the time just isn’t anymore so I get anxious, mostly, about being anxious - so frustrating. I’m not the same person I was a year ago. I think that’s why I haven’t posted much this week. I feel so tired and disheartened by it all. But the fight goes on ...

Pepper I’m always up for hugs 🤗 - so yours, and anyone’s, are gratefully accepted, and I do so love them. Thank you ❤️

So Grandy, Birdy and Peppe love ❤️⭕️❌❤️⭕️❌ and hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 to you sll