Dear Shell~
It is easy to think that a relationship has to be equal tasks, or equal money, or any other physical thing. I don't think it is true. I do think the exchange of love, understanding and care is what makes it work.
When I became ill my wife looked after me, and the offspring, and the household, and went to work. A huge burden.
Later she became ill for a long time before passing away and it was the other way around.
You can't use accountant's principals for a partnership. You also can't apply normal standards when one is ill, that would be silly, but that's what we do.
I doubt very much it is laziness that means you do not do the dishes, you do what you can, and that effort means a lot, as does ringing him to let him know you care and would smooth his path if you could.
You have barriers to overcome to do those everyday tasks, and you will get there, bit by bit.
Croix
