Hi, welcome, thats remarkable.
I had a good friend once. He was married. He had a young lady that flirted with him at his workplace but he showed zero interest. Then he started telling his wife about her. Every day he'd come home and tell her what she did to gain interest from him. After a few weeks he told me his wife was distant from him now. So I asked him "what was the gain in telling her about that lady at work?"
I understand the reason to be truthful and your efforts and attempts to be honest and accurate is really admirable but sometimes things happen that can be withheld and brushed off. Eg Say my friend went to a work xmas breakup party and the girl flirted at him in front of his wife and his wife asked him about her "well, she's just flirty, I wouldnt worry about her, I'm married and happy and I just brush her off, she might be like that to all the guys". He would be minimalising the situation that he hasnt caused.
So being blatantly honest or rather exposing every conversation or event in your life to your loved ones isnt always productive. Best to limit some experiences to yourself that could cause more concern than needed. After all its you that needs to be convinced of your own success at eliminated telling lies.
My other concern is that such a transformation can lead to you having expectations of their reactions. They might not all fully endorse your new self by withholding resentment from past lies even though you've admitted them. In 2 years for example you might make a statement about a car you sold for say $10,000 and a reply might include "is that the truth?". Sad isnt it. So dont be perturbed, your new self has to stand up to that honourably and say, "please, dont hold the past against me". Then dont answer any more questions, you've said it,,, end!.
It's a little like someone having robbed banks and is out of jail... A loved one reminding him of the time he spent there. But his punishment was the time, not being reminded his history of being sentenced. Everyone deserves a chance especially when you've faced the biggest challenge of your life.
So all praise to you, hold your head high and be short and concise if you are treated poorly when you are trying so hard.
"You're not in this world to live up to others expectations... only your own"
TonyWK
