Anxiety issue

[BballJ]

Hi all,

I took abit of convincing myself to join the forums and write in here but just wanted some advice.

in the past two weeks, I have had anxiety spiralling out of control, I am unable to concentrate at work or at home, I continually think of the worst case scenario in anything, I wake up in the middle of the night having panic attacks (heart racing, in shaking, heavy breathing) I haven't slept more than 4 hours each night and during the day I am in a constant stressed state that by 2 pm I am tired as can be, I hate being alone, if I'm driving I feel the need to call someone just so I can get my mind off my anxiety and contanst worry feelings. I have lost my appetite, eating maybe one meal a day simply because I cannot eat. I have tried natural over the counter medicine to try and alleviate the anxiety and calm me down but they don't work.... Does this sound like GAD and should I see a doctor about medication?

thank you in advance for your replies.

Jay

[Guest_1584]

Hi jay and cm and all.

Just dropping in to see how u are J . That was pretty damn rough of that friend , l wonder wth happened to her . sorry mate. People are so damn weird.

l do hear you guys on the alone thing , personally l'm about where cm is now but l was where you are are J and l'm sorry your going through it.

l just finished my 4th wkend in a row alone , but in all honesty it's been my choice. Got a lot on my mind and frankly too, tbh l;'ve also just been enjoying myself at home too much to bother, lsn't that weird.

Jay you helped me so much with the stuff l was going through awhile back , you have such a knack and a way about you in all that stuff , really. Tbh l feel pretty silly hoping to return the favor and just not capable of the wise words you so often spoke to me. So l'm sorry about that but just know that everyone here will be behind you 110% .

It sounds insane right now but things do get better , so much so, hang in there.

rx

[CMF]

Hi Jay and RX

Jay, when you feel the happiness what is going through your mind? What is making yo happy? I understand that feeling of having no one to call. I was the same, in fact, my best friends and i have only become closer over the last year or so. One in particular i am in touch with all the time sometimes every day. We can talk about everything and anything and ti is only since we started opening more that our friendship has developed. Before that, i too had no one i could ring, mind you, I was very closed too and didn't tell people much.

This 'friend' you lost...i don't really see her as a friend because a good friend would not do that. A good friend would stick by you, no matter what. Sometimes we need to get rid of the people and things that are not working so we can move forward. She may have in fact been weighing you down. Is she the one you helped and then she said you did nothing for her? You don't need to carry that extra weight Jay.

I'm sorry your weekend was so up and down. When you feel up, write it down, write down how you feel and what makes you feel good so you can look back on it in the down times. I did this, it's on my phone and i looked at it today as i was feeling pretty flat.

"A true friend is someone who will always love you. The imperfect, the confused, the wrong you -because that is what people are supposed to do"

cmf x

[CMF]

How are you Jay?

i sit here and hope you are not struggling.

Cmf x

[BballJ]

Hi CMF & randomx,

randomx - Thank you for your kind message, believe me, you are doing so much just by writing to me and it puts a smile on my face just reading what you write. So you are doing way more than you think and you also have a way with words yourself. You can tell how caring you are just through your post. You know what it is like to be where I have been feeling and that is ok. We can come out of these feelings we just need time.

CMF - Again, thank you for your messages, last two days have actually been ok, not struggling as such which is good, but that can change quickly. Just trying to stay positive as best as possible. You asked me what makes me happy, I would say just being around friends and family makes me the happiest. Having company, I am such a social person so being on my own is foreign to me. I am learning however. I am glad you have re connected with your best friend that sounds great.

Regarding my friend, it is disappointing but what can I do, they chose to make a decision to better their life and if I cannot be apart of it then I guess that's it. I listened to a speech the other day and the main body of the speech was this. "If people can walk away from you, let them walk, you can't make someone stay, it doesn't mean they are a bad person, it just means their part in your story is over."

I like your idea of writing stuff down when I feel happy, I may have to do that, did you find it helped when you felt flat? Did it bring you up?

My best,

Jay

[CMF]

Jay,

I'm glad last 2 days have been ok. Hold onto it and make the most of it. Slowly, slowly the good days increase. I like that saying about when people walk away that chapter is over. People come into our lives at different stages and for different reasons. Some as blessings, some as lessons.

as far as writing things down when you're happy, yeah it does work a bit. Even if it doesn't pick me up it reminds me that I am capable of feeling good, being happy and looking at a things with a different perspective.

hope the rest of the week is good to you.

talk soon

cmf x

[CMF]

Hi Jay,

just wondering how you're going. How was the weekend? I was reading another thread today and saw a post from you. I got all excited thinking you were around the forums then realised it was a post from several days ago 😊. Silly me hey.

i hope you've been ok and things are getting a little easier.

cmf x

[CMF]

Hi Jay,

You know how i said i was ok on my own now. That i am fine with my own company. I think i was wrong. Little miss has been spending the day with her dad on Sunday's and i am really missing her. I am ok initially but as the evening comes on i really miss her and can't wait till she comes him. I thought i was ok on my own but i now realise that i am ok cos i have her. I don't want another relationship but yes i would struggle on my own i think so I know exactly how you feel. It will get better for you in time, but yes it s hard.

cmf x

[Guest_1584]

Hi CM.

Must've heard or read that from a 1000 mums since l got divorced. But they still don't seem to understand even from that , how hard then it must be for the dads.Most of them are surviving on wkends or every second wkend with their kids if they're lucky. Atm l'm lucky to get 2 nights a wk with my daughter, she's 16 now. It effg still kills me.

PS , thanks J that was nice of you , hope your ok mate . Hopefully your just too busy right now , that'd be nice.

rx.

[CMF]

Hey RX (sorry to hijack your thread Jay)

i know it's tough for many dads but my little ones dad is only around when it suits him. Did nothing for 5 years, went weeks and sometimes months with no contact so I have no sympathy for him. I've never stopped him seeing her. He's an abusive bully.

[BballJ]

Hi CMF & randomx,

Apologies for my delayed responses. Has been a fun few days since I was last on here, emotions go all the way up and then come crashing down. I have this weird thing where I literally take on everyone's emotions and just wear them. I am constantly always in a good mood and always smiling and being happy because it how I hide any frustrations. Other people close to me feel when they are in a bad mood then they have an excuse to treat me like shit and hide behind it? When on earth does become acceptable? Why do I allow it to happen. I am just so over everything. I want a switch where I can turn it all off and start again a million miles away from here. I want to disappear and become someone else and not be this person anymore. I don't like this person that I am.

My best,

Jay