Anxiety issue

[BballJ]

Hi all,

I took abit of convincing myself to join the forums and write in here but just wanted some advice.

in the past two weeks, I have had anxiety spiralling out of control, I am unable to concentrate at work or at home, I continually think of the worst case scenario in anything, I wake up in the middle of the night having panic attacks (heart racing, in shaking, heavy breathing) I haven't slept more than 4 hours each night and during the day I am in a constant stressed state that by 2 pm I am tired as can be, I hate being alone, if I'm driving I feel the need to call someone just so I can get my mind off my anxiety and contanst worry feelings. I have lost my appetite, eating maybe one meal a day simply because I cannot eat. I have tried natural over the counter medicine to try and alleviate the anxiety and calm me down but they don't work.... Does this sound like GAD and should I see a doctor about medication?

thank you in advance for your replies.

Jay

[BballJ]

Hi Ava,

Oh no, bee's in the walls of the house? Do you have to get pest control to come and sort that out?

Sorry to hear P is struggling again... I understand to a degree how he pushes you away, sound's like it his way of dealing with it, which I know doesn't seem fair to you but I guess to him it's the easiest way... he definitely has it worse than me and I empathise with him in that regard. It's good he doesn't hide his emotions but at the same time you don't want it to disrupt your partner... I learnt that with my wife as you know. I always try to remind myself baby steps thanks to you and it helps.

I have been so tired this week but, struggling to get a good nights sleep, keep having intense dreams which are annoying and I'm wondering if i need to bring it to the attention of my psych. I am not normally a person to put too much thought into them but sometimes I wake up and say to myself "Whoa"

How are you feeling anyway? Any better at all?

My best, Jay

[Wednesday]

Hi Jay,

Bees all sorted by the pest man.

P struggles a lot. Can I ask if your anxiety tends to focus on you? P's does and I was wondering if it was a part of the disease?

Do you think that the work you're doing is tiring you, it does most people? Then of course you have to control your asthma and hay fever. The combination maybe leaving you a bit run down. I suspect the intense dreams are your subconscious' way of dealing with the psych discussions. I hope they are not to scary. It means your memory/brain is refocusing and working through memories, but maybe it's worth a mentioning to your psych.

Baby steps, Hugs, x

[BballJ]

Hi Ava,

Good to hear about the bee's.

My Anxiety does tend to focus on me and my problems and saying that makes me sound very selfish but I guess that's what it is.. its an anxiety about yourself. It's kind of tough to explain. I'm assuming P makes it about himself?

I don't think it is tiring me, it doesn't feel like it, my dreams are just so realisitic, mainly focus around my relationship with my wife, which is odd to me, I want to bring it up with my psych but i feel I haven't closed off my other issues yet to bring up new fresh ones. I had to cancel my appointment this week as I couldn't make the time so Im booked in for next week.

Hugs, Jay

[Wednesday]

Hi Jay,

P is home. Thanks for your feedback. I think it's normal for people to worry themselves. It seems to me that P's worries are only about how things effect him.

Maybe you could let the psych know to add to her notes for later discussion?

Just for fun, one way to look at your dream is to say all players are a part of you e.g. your wife is the feminine side of you and you play the male side. So your brain is working through an issue using these players. Just a thought?

Hugs, xx

[BballJ]

Hi Ava,

We all worry about ourselves that is true, everyone deserves to be a little selfish I think. I guess part of GAD is the constant worry of how things effect you so it seems it would be pretty normal that it would only focus on him. My anxiety never leads me to worry about someone else, always about how certain situations effect me, so I wouldn't hold it against him in that regard.

I will let my psych know... I do like the way you look at it, I guess it always is interesting to try and see things from another side and trying to see how my brain is trying to work things out is interesting in itself. A brain that has anxiety just seems to never stop thinking, feels like a revolving door at times.

Much planned for the weekend?

Hugs, Jay

[Wednesday]

Hi Jay,

Thanks for the info, good to know. P did stop and ask how I was going last night, which was nice. I burst into tears, he's not comfortable with me crying but he coped. He doesn't understand why the family stuff hurts so much and thinks I should just ignore it and let it go. I try to but things crop up all the time, birthdays, Christmas etc.

Sadly I probably just added to his anxiety. Wouldn't it be nice to find the anxiety switch and turn it off for you guys. I am sorry that you both have to deal with these monstrous brain terrorists mercilessly teasing your overworked brains. Down with BT's, may they all disappear.

Dont worry about the dreams, your brain is doing whatever it needs to do to work through things. Everybody dreams but mostly we don't remember them. Apparently I have noisy dreams that scares the heck out of P from time to time, I don't remember them. Actually I don't think I want to remember them.

I still can't breathe well the lung virus seems to be winning, grrr. So, as a consequence I have nothing planned this weekend. I hope you and your wife have some fun stuff lined up.

Hugs, x

[BballJ]

Hi Ava,

Well it is nice P stopped to ask that, he obviously cares deeply for you but his GAD is just very strong, so i feel for him and you. It may just be he struggles to process how much the family stuff affects you purely because it doesn't affect him. Which again as I said above seems very selfish but that's how the brain may process it. Just my theory. It's better he knows in my opinion, it may add to his short term anxiety but you need to get stuff out in the open sometimes, even if it falls on deaf ears, at least you spoke about it and got it out there, but boy oh boy do i wish i could find the anxiety switch and just flick it off, even just for a day or two... would be so nice.

I guess I am not worrying per say about the dreams, but want them to stop and not be so real, that's all. Better you do not remember your noisy ones, that's for sure.

Oh, silly lung virus, You'll fight it, I know it's been a while but I know it will get better. The weather has been shocking where I am but I promised my wife we'd spend the day together tomorrow so probably to the Peninsula for lunch and shopping and visit my dad also.

Hugs, Jay

[Wednesday]

Hi Jay,

I just found this post, sorry I forgot to hit the post reply button....

Hope you had a lovely relaxing, non anxious day on the peninsular, you deserve one.

P does care in his way. Talking to you has made me realise how much his GAD impacts on his behaviour, thanks. I think I have helped him a little. He has never learned the sort of coping skills that you have.

Hugs, x

[BballJ]

Hi Ava,

It's ok, don't stress at all 🙂

It was a decent day, ended up going to the movies actually as well so was a good day, weather wasn't too bad either.

I guess part of it is, you have to want to learn to cope with it, P seems like he knows it sort of takes over and just really can't be bothered trying to fight it. Of course i may be very wrong but just what it sounds like. It's not easy trying to fight it either, almost feels as if it makes it worse. I feel for him, I know how tough it can get.

How are you feeling these past few days?

Hugs, Jay

[Wednesday]

Hi Jay,

I'm pleased you had a good day, do go and have lots of them 🙂

Yes P does allow it to take over his life and mine for that matter. I think he has done this for so long that everyone enables his behaviour, family, work and socially. He is used to getting certain responses, disappearing into himself whenever and wherever. His kids almost parent him. I find it hard not to buy in to his behaviour and also become an enabler. Then I come with my own form of madness so who am I to judge!

Lungs stuff etc. is still around but the drop in hay fever seems to have helped. As long as I sit still I'm okay. I went to the dentist today to fix a broken tooth and I was fine.

P is about to retire and he has had a lifetime of GAD that has had little management. So you can see why I think the work you're doing is gold!

Do you have an appt today... good luck.