Losing a parent from Stage 4 lung cancer
Dad’s became legally blind at mid age. He was devastated due to loss of mobility as a consequence. Then diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer at 86 that has spread to the left leg bones causing agonising pain that has left him unable to walk. Just 3 months after being diagnosed with cancer he’s had a stroke that left him with his left body paralysed. Hard to see a gentleman suffer with discomfort, pain, anxiety and depression for almost half his lifetime. It is affecting all members of the family including grandchildren due to his illness. Breaks my heart to hear him say “im tired”. Left me with anger and denial and embarrassment. Tried to show my family I’m fine when deep inside im not. I guess this is one way of getting it off my chest.
Sorry to hear of your dads situation. Venting is fine, we are here for you.
I have a dear couple that I've know all my life. When his wife had cancer, I rang him to support him. He said "what can you do". Those words allowed me to remove some of my fretting for her (she is a mother figure) and allow me some slack when it comes to grief. It means we all have limitations and thats fine, we are not super people that can relieve their pain and suffering. Your best is always good enough.
Gather all your memories those close and those afar
write them down and put them in a jar
take them out and squeeze that note tight
Through his wishes , everything will be alright
Stroke his head and tell him of you care
keep telling his grandkids, that he is aware
read their little notes to him from close or afar
then return them with love, to that little jar...
So Dad passed 4 weeks later. No regrets as we’ve spent quality time together with the family circle. Will yet to say our last farewell. No more pain and tears. He’s left behind good memories. Glad to see him pass comfortably in a hospice care. I guess tome will help heal from here on in.