Grief/loss

[Nutkins]

Hi,

I lost mum 2 years ago. I’m devastated. Was her carer. I lost 4 cats- Jane, Tilly, Robby, Kevin, and now Ratty. I have a place to do vet science, but buyers won’t buy my house , so can’t go interstate to do it. I am alone . I have no family / close friends. I’m unemployed cos I went to TAFE and no one will give a job. I am trapped . Can’t move. Gonna lose my place . Have nothing much to live for atm, but who cares- no one

I worked hard for my vet place. 
have always worked hard. 
Don’t know what to do.

only allowed counselling once a month. Have no one to talk to. V. Lonely. I cry all the time. 
too much grief. More grief, more lonleyness. 
Got bullied out of nursing, while was Mums carer for free- cos she was not allowed a carer on Medicare on a visa.

I think this house selling will kill me. It is so cruel. My house is a good house, but they either don’t want it or they try to rip it off me. 
My father says it’s better to be heartbroken than in a mess, but does not understand that heartbreak can get you into a mess.

This is not right. It’s killing me

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Financial stress can be devastating and in my younger years I went through it for about 25 years. 

If you are going to lose your house then approach the bank and ask for a stay on payments and tell them you have the house on the market. Honesty is the best policy on this matter.

The worst situation you'll find yourself in is to go bankrupt. That sounds terrible however it means you can still borrow money for white goods and other items. Bankruptcy last 3 years, not that long really and you can plan for a better financial future in the meantime.

Your dad loves you, some wont understand your stress like all mental illnesses. You really need long term plans and motivation to succeed and not expect it overnight. 

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/depression-distraction-and-variety/td-p/275790

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/the-best-praise-you-ll-ever-get/td-p/134999

I hope I've helped, repost anytime

TonyWK

[Fern42]

Hi Nutkins,

I just want to acknowledge that you have been through so much, and you sound very courageous.

I see you can only access counselling once a month, I know griefline is not a counselling service however have you ever thought about reaching out to them for support?

I also believe its important to not give up on your dreams even if that means that it is not possible for you to undertake them right now (vet science). Once thing fall into place your time will come. Life sometimes has a different time line for you than what we want for it but that doesn't mean things won't fall into place. 

Take care.