Grief after blighted ovum

[Eza84]

I'd like to share my recent experience with a blighted ovum. I haven't been able to find much online support so thought i would share here in the hopes of talking to others.

Like alot of people, i had never heard of a blighted ovum before. I started to love my baby and get excited and plan for the future like most women do when they get that first positive test. But to find out at 6 weeks that there was no baby growing, but having all the symptoms of pregnancy, to then have to go through the process of a miscarriage, was traumatic for me to say the least.

It put alot of pressure on my relationship too as my husband and i came to terms with what was happening. We didn't handle it well which added to the pressure and sadness.

It is such a difficult thing to go through and im finding there is really no support for women like us.

I know i am not alone in this experience and would love advice on moving forward.

[Doolhof]

Hello Eza84,

Wishing you sympathy and understanding on the loss of your baby dreams and desires. I don't understand the occurrence of a blighted ovum, but I do understand the loss of pregnancies.

I understand the hopes, dreams, wishes, expectations and the excitement that our minds entertain and take on as we consider the pleasures of a pregnancy. To have those hopes and dreams dashed can be devastating.

I'm not sure what support is available. It sounds like you have already tried to research options. Can you have a talk to your Dr and ask if they know of any support that is available?

Options that have helped me include talking to friends, even if they don't understand, I ask them to listen and tell them I don't expect them to have answers as I don't have any myself.

I have bought a special piece of jewellery to remember my children.

In the garden I have planted roses in their memory.

I have written many times to help to allow the grief to be released.

Recently I went to a cemetery and saw some beautiful leaf shaped metal plaques with words of love and memory written on them for pregnancies that ended too soon.

I really do hope you are able to talk to your husband about how you are feeling. Do you think some couples counselling might be an option?

Wishing you ways to find a sense of peace in the heartache.

Kind regards from Dools