Everything feels different now

[Guest_65607549]

Last year we got the terrible news that our mum didn’t have long to live , so I quit my job and left my home to come back to be with her in this time . We lost her early this year and I’m struggling … I dont at all regret the decision I made to move home to be close to my family over this time . But it’s been tough. I don’t love my job and I’m struggling financially with my mortgage back home and paying rent here , while also just worrying about my dad and him being alone. I spend all my time with him . And I’m just struggling to know where I fit back in  . I have been gone for so long my friends all have lives of their own . How do u pick urself up and move on with so much change. 

[Sophie_M]

Hi there,

Thank you for sharing and welcome to the forums.. We’re so sorry to hear that you’ve lost your Mum. It can be quite hard to express what you’re feeling, at the moment, but please know you’ve taken a really brave and commendable step in sharing here.  

It sounds like you've been through a lot and it's understandable that it can feel strange and difficult trying to get back to where you were when things are different now. Are you connected with any bereavement or mental health support currently? We'd highly recommend talking to Griefline, on 1300 845 745 (6am to midnight AEST every day), they have a lot of helpful tips as it's common to feel a range of emotions after losing someone.

Please know that you're not alone with this, you can call the Beyond Blue helpline at any time, on 1300 22 4636. They can help you talk this through and will also be able to help you plan what's next so that you have that support in place. 

We hope you're able to be kind to yourself through this, as you've been so kind in sharing your experience here. You never know how your story might help someone else, so do feel free to share more if you're comfortable to. We hope you can find some comfort and understanding on the forums, where other community members might be able to relate to what you’re going through.  

Kind regards,  

Sophie M  

[ABC01]

Hello,

I just want to reach out and say I feel for you in this time.

You come across very clearly as someone who feels so much love for your family and it is natural to worry about your dad and spend time with him after what has happened. I admire your strength and courage to do what you have, to be home with your mum and your dad.

You are right, that is a lot of change to try and navigate. I don't have an answer to your situation and I wish I did. But I do know through my own current experience with grief and loss, that you are doing the best you can. That is the best we can do everyday. And navigating through it is hard. Just take one thing at a time. It is okay to not have all the answers in one go.

I would defiantly seek help from someone who has experience in this field of mental health. They have theory and practical education to help.

I am sorry for the loss of your mum.

Please take care of yourself too.

ABC01