Why I am always lonely and useless

[Guest_0845]

I find myself sitting at home every Friday and Saturday night hating life, being lonely, feeling useless, feeling like a waste of space, I have always had a lot of trouble making friends, I've Not ever really had any really. I've always been the ugly duckling, people don't want anything to do with me, nobody will talk to me, I try to meet new people and it just doesn't get me anywhere and makes me feel worse, it makes me feel like I'm a waste of space, my family don't understand, therapy doesn't fix my issues, I'm guessing nothing will???

[Sophie_M]

Hi Guest_0845,

Thank you for sharing this here. We're so sorry to hear you're feeling this way. Please know that this community is here for you. We’re so grateful to have you reach out to our community this morning and are so sorry to hear everything you have going on at the moment. Times like this can get overwhelming. We hope that you find our forums to be a safe and supportive space to talk through your thoughts and feelings. Our community is here for you. 

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[tranzcrybe]

You realise that others will view you through a filter of superficial features and mannerisms - it is natural (and sad), but it's the first thing we observe when making acquaintances. Have you noticed how some people you meet look a certain way at first, but then seem to lose some characteristics the more you get to know them. The veneer becomes translucent revealing the person within as they blend into their own familiarity regardless of appearance (on all levels).
Even theoretically beautiful people can often appear hideous once you experience their behaviour, and vice versa.
But something is preventing you from arriving at that next stage and it might not be 'other people' who are making that determination...