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Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started

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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

How do I talk to my doctor?

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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION

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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Can’t parent today.

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I can’t stop crying, I’ve locked myself in my room and I don’t know what to do. My kids have made their own breakfast but I just can’t do it today. I got given a mental health care plan and a list of psychologists and I went through the whole list and they’re all booked out and won’t take a waiting list. I can’t feed myself properly I manage to make my kids food but it’s not the best and I would have never have just fed them thing like 2 minute noodles and toast constantly. I can’t do it anymore. When I’m well I’m always helping people out and when I’m not those people are no where to be found. I feel very alone and don’t know how to manage anything anymore, I can’t keep pretending.

Finally reached acceptance over a break up

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Break ups hurt, I had all these beautiful and happy feelings and memories with my ex. I felt so hurt last week when we broke up, but I can move on now, look onto better things, and just miss him right now until the hurt fades. Has anyone else gone th... View more

Family mocking me

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So pretty much I'm in a house with my mum and my two autistic siblings that are highly functional. Including me. It is horrible, in a sense. I attempted suicide once and am planning do it again, because there are fights in the house every night, whenever we get into an argument they use my mental illness against me and apparent lky I'm not allowed to crack the shits. So I go back into to my room and self-harm On the other hand there is my sister, she's horrible. My mum has been "accommodating" me with my struggles, but doesn't really take the time to truly understand it. And my sister gets jealous, so she treats me horribly. So I treat you bad back too, because in the past I've tried to be nice. But it's no use. Everyday I'm reminded why I don't wanna be here, the family just further reinforcing it. I just Wanna feel comfortable. I don't know what to do because I'm trapped here, I don't have a job or a card or a license. Been working towards it but my mum won't take me for drives even though I finally got my learners. I'm afraid the next night I'll be in jail for losing myself, I should probably go homeless just to be a bit better. I hate it. I hate my sister.

My 14 y/o son need help breaking up with suicidal bpd girlfriend

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Hi, My 14 year old son has been dating a young girl with BPD for a couple months & the poor kid has gone through so much stress & worry over this girl it’s making him sick. He wants to end the relationship but she is threatening self-harm & suicide if he leaves her. His scared of breaking up with her, because he doesn’t want her to do anything to hurt herself but he knows it’s not a healthy relationship to be in even after a couple months. Please I need help, I don’t know how to advise him & I’m scared for him, for how he will be left emotionally if she does hurt herself. I’ve told him her actions are her own, that he is not responsible for the things she does but the poor boy is so worried & scared. Thanks

depression

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Hey guys i have heavy depression, any tips

Chronic overthing

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20 years of chronic overthinking. Don't know how to break the habit. It has gotten alot worse the last 6months. Don't know how to stop it. The overthinking has led to some bad decisions and thoughts and plans on worse decisions. Don't know how to sto... View more

i don't care

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about anything anymore, but at the same time, I care.

Boy friend showed his true colours feel sad

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My boyfriend and I were in love, but he dumped me for his ex who he was with for 20 years. He broke up with her before seeing me and he told me I made him believe in love again. He told me a lot of things: that he loved me, that he was red a future with me, that I was the only woman in the world for him now, that we were soulmates, that he wanted to have a football team of kids with me, that I was by far the most special woman he’d ever dated. I tried to help him where he needed it and I loved being with him. Then last weekend, one day he was acting deeply in love with me, and being kind and caring, literally the next day he was back with her. I’m struggling with this, it’s broken my faith in relationships. Has anyone else experienced this?

Depression over health issues.

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Ten years ago I was diagnosed with Crohnes disease. By the time I was finally diagnosed however, it had destroyed around one metre of my small intestine. My bowel perforated and I had to battle so hard to stay alive. I was left a wreck, both physically and mentally. I won't go into this much, as it's pretty traumatic and hurts at what can happen when someone doesn't do their job. My body has been a disaster zone the last ten years. Some good times, but a lot of problems dealing with short bowel and crohnes. Last October the heart damage caused by the mess ten years ago came back to hit me hard! I had congestive heart failure, and after another fight for life, survived. Since then I have battled feeling depressed, as I feel I'm a dead man walking! I begin to feel more confident, then my belly gives me issues and my fear and depressed feeling return. I'm not the suicidal type, because my fear is of dying before I am ready! I love being alive, and visiting old friends and places of my youth. I look at life as THE experience, a gift to wring everything out of! I'm not scared of death, I'm scared of leaving the world I have loved for 67 years. I don't like medication for depression as it's masking, and not solving the problem. As I say, I am fine, until my body decides to scare me good, every few weeks lately.

year 12 will be the death of me i swear

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if you take the time to read this, then thank you so currently in year 12, failing chemistry and maths methods, which is lowkey really stressing me out but like thats okay. i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a few years back and this year a few months ago i got diagnosed with chronic migraines although they've been going on for years. last year with lockdown i got extremely depressed and am so surprised i even passed year 11. it was hard. this year though, is different. I'm from Melbourne, Victoria and we haven't had any cases in 90 days but that recently changed and we've been put into another lockdown that is probably gonna get extended, i am literally on day two of this and i just found out i failed one of my sacs, i genuinely do not think i can make it through another year of online school. What do i do to cope, cos all i did last year was turn my camera off and sleep through classes, i was so depressed. I mean sometimes i have bursts of motivation from videos i'll see or something like that but they never last. there is of course also a guy, who is equally as depressed as i am, worse than i am (and yes i know probably shouldn't like him) but man i can't keep my mind of him and i always wanna help him and we both said (cos we live a little far away from each other) we will wait, wait till we have our licenses, wait till we finish year 12. that is literally nearly all that is keeping me going at this point. as well as wanting a victorian position in cadets (youth development program). i have so much to look forward to and hope for, i know i do. i just don't have the bloody motivation and it ticks me off. why can't i just be idk normal? can you guys help me get through this? oh and should i see a therapist? Thanks, t.c

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