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Asking someone for help

MishelLou
Community Member
I am in a position where I need support but can't bring myself to ask anyone, especially having to ask out loud. Have made and cancelled doctors appointments and just push through. It's been years of ups and downs and don't know at what point a change needs to happen.
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geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello MishelLou, welcome to the site.

What can happen is that we know we're not feeling well, not perhaps so much physically, but mentally which can then affect how we feel physically, meaning much more recluse, not able to go outside or go to a party we had always wanted to a few months ago and believe we are able to work through all of this by ourselves, I really wish it was that easy, but it's not, unfortunately.

You may find it helpful to look at the anxiety and depression checklist on the Beyond Blue website. Can I then suggest you write down what is troubling you or giving you great concern, then all you have to do is hand this document over to the doctor, this will help when they ask you 'what can I do for you today', it explains everything.

Ask them about the mental health care plan, this entitles you to a medicare rebate for up to 10 sessions , although because of this virus you maybe able to have more sessions, your doctor will know.

If you are stuck wondering whether or not to make an appointment, then the fact that you've had actually made one, means that there is something you need help with and please remember that it's to easy to make an appointment weeks or months in advance but as the time comes closer you start feeling anxious and cancel it, that may relieve you but it doesn't help with what you are struggling with.

Are you able to take someone with you, they don't necessarily need to know why, but give you the support in encouraging you, it's important you start somewhere.

You know the ups may feel good but it's when you fall down, these tend to last a long time.

We want to help you through all of this and hope to hear back from you, and please don't be afraid because some of us started exactly the same way.

Geoff.

 

romantic_thi3f
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi MishelLou,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out. It can be the hardest thing to reach out and ask for help and I commend you for being here and making these appointments.

What do you think is holding you back and making you cancel?

Geoff has definitely given some great advice. Especially with writing things down as sometimes we tend to go quiet, or bringing someone in to be a bit of an advocate - or at least take you to the appointment and push you in the door.

I wonder, could it be worth going to the GP for an unrelated issue, and then if it feels right- bring up your mental health? For example, I could book in with my GP and in the appointment just say I'm struggling with fatigue. (Pretty common in depression anyway). That way you're not having all this pressure on you to talk about your mental health, and you've got a little back-up plan of something that might not feel quite as confronting. Just a thought and hope this makes sense.

Feel free to let us know how we can support you. You're doing the right thing.

rt