Where to from here?

[Linm]

Yesterday i had the most horrid meltdown. I dont know why? I think it is stress but i dont know. I usually try to be positive as i work in aged care but lately its getting harder and harder to put that happy face on. Partner is not working so all pressure is on me to get bills paid. And im struggling. And its causing me to feel animosity towards him especially when hes not even looking for a job. Normally christmas is awesome but with our current situation financially i cant get the presents etc this year and its making me feel like a failure. I tried to tell my partner yesterday when i finally broke down after feeling like this for months that i feel like im sinking further and further into a bottomless dark abyss with no way out. His response was unsupportive. I dont think he understands how severe the feelings of hopelessness are and i dont like to be a drama queen but i dont know what to do. Ugh!

[jess334]

Hi Linm,

Thanks for posting & welcome to the BB forums.

Christmas can put additional stresses on everyone. If you are finding it difficult to make ends meet it can be extra hard.

It's great that you have made the difficult decision not to purchase presents with credit. Christmas might be a little smaller, but it is much better to spend only what you can afford. This doesn't make you a failure at all! I think it makes you a lot smarter than people who rely on afterpay and credit cards to get through the silly season.

I'm sorry your partner wasn't supportive. Have you tried calling to him when you haven't been upset? It can be difficult to know what to say when someone is in meltdown mode. I think a lot of people say nothing rather than risk making it worse.

I hope you get through this season ok. There are many people on Beyond Blue who have trouble around this time of year - you are not alone.

Kind thoughts, Jess

[Doolhof]

Hi Linm,

I too welcome you to the community here on the forum. I see Jess has offered her support and some kind words and suggestions.

Beyond Blue have a 24 hour phone support service as well on 1300 22 4636. I have used this many times and find the support works very beneficial. They listen to what you have to say and can offer some advice or just a listening ear.

We here at the forum care for people too and hopefully you feel acknowledged and your issues validated here.

Years ago I worked in Aged Care so know how wonderful it can be but how exhausting as well. I admire you for working in that industry.

Finances can be a hassle all year, Christmas just adds to the stress and feelings of gloom at times.

This year due to over whelming depression at times I was unable to organise gifts for Christmas this year. I explained my issue to the family and they were all just thankful I was able to visit them and share time with them.

Some people just don't understand depression and burn out.

Please feel welcome here to express more of how yo are feeling if that helps.

I do so hope you and your family have been able to experience a lovely Christmas despite all that is happening for you.

Maybe after Christmas you could have a chat to your Dr about how you are feeling.

Cheers to you from Dools