unemployment

[Jessie_L]

I have been here for more than 3 years and yet cant find a job in south australia after applying numourous times and following up. im very stressed as i dont want to live off my husbands money. I always think what if his no longer around how will i look after myself without any work. i dont have any close family members in australia. I dont have a driving licence since i cant afford without a job and my husband is scared that i might crash into something. i dont want feel like a loser, i want to have some status and money to be able to help my husband and my family overseas. I get depressed staying home and i want to have friends who i can talk too. I feel like im trapped, my husband relatives they used backdoor help to get thier daughter in laws a job. Im still struggling to find a job. i feel disgraced. what i am suppose to do?

[baet123]

Hey Jessie,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for posting. It is great to have you here and I hope you find these forums beneficial to your emotional well-being and quality of life.

Firstly, I would like to commend you on the bravery, courage and resilience you have shown for posting on forums and expressing your thoughts and emotions to us. This is extremely hard to do and you have some amazing qualities!

Secondly, I don't think your a loser and you shouldn't feel that way about yourself either. You have some great qualities and your employment situation is extremely common even amongst people who have had many years of study and experience in a certain industry/field so please don't be too hard on yourself.

I understand and realise that being dependant on your husband is not something your comfortable with and that is completely understandable. May I ask if you have contacted and employment agency. Making an appointment with an employment agency is a great place to start as they will have many connections in the industry which you wish to work in and this is something you should consider.

Can I also ask whether you have received any assistance with your CV, cover letter or addressing selection criteria when applying for a specific role? You may find that your CV, cover letter or response addressing selection criteria may be lacking and getting assistance in this department is definitely something you should consider doing!

You mention you are depressed as a result of staying home and not being employed. I would consider seeing your GP and discussing treatment options (medication and therapy etc) so that you are feeling better emotionally which will have great benefit to your overall quality of life and improve your motivation, overall mood which is extremely important when job hunting.

May I ask which industry you wish to work in so that I can provide you with more information regarding employment agencies, job seeking websites and the like?

I am sure you already know many of these services but I will list them anyways:

- Seek.

- Indeed

- Adecco

- Horner Recruitment

- Robert Half

Also, volunteering would be a great way to improve your CV and you may be able to get a job at an agency/organisation you volunteer at a few months down the track.

Hope this helps.

All the best,

Nick.

[PamelaR]

Hi Jessie and a warm welcome to our community forums

How life must feel so difficult - in a new country, leaving your friends, blood family and job. My heart goes out to you Jessie.

Having status is really important in any culture. I expect that you feel very isolated here. A bit like my father who came from Indonesia (Dutch, Chinese and Indonesian/Malaysian) and always felt an outsider especially with my mother's family. He had no friends either and refused to join clubs or groups, e.g. Dutch or Chinese. Because in his eyes he was neither. That's really hard.

My dad did get work, but never at the level that he was qualified for. It was the nature of Australia during the 50s, though in some ways I don't think much has changed. So it doesn't surprise me you have difficulties finding work.

That feeling of being trapped is debilitating isn't it? Having little to no money, no friends, no driving licence to get you out and no family?

You are not a disgrace Jessie. Not a all!! Please keep reaching out to us here.

Until you can get paid work, have you thought about volunteering in a local community group, e.g. library (reading stories to children)? Doing voluntary work can be rewarding while you look for paid work and gives you the opportunity to meet new people and maybe build friendships.

Feel free to browse the forums and join any of the discussion you think suits your situation.

While you plan what you want to do, have a think about browsing the area People like me and the forum Multicultural Experiences. You may find these of interest.

Your thread is currently located until the social zone. I'm assuming you did this as a way to start making friends. That's good. As you may know we're unable to share our personal details, this is for security and safety.

Keep reaching out if and when you want to Jessie.

Kind regards

PamelaR